When chasing a girl, confession is often a gamble, and I don’t need to say more about betting on the fate of a dog.
Believe me, if you rush to confess your love to a girl, the scene will not be as surprising and touching as many Korean dramas, and it may even be embarrassing.
If you don’t believe me, recall the scene when you were looking for a job: Were you very nervous and anxious when you first went for the interview? Want to get a reply?
Finally one day HR calls you and tells you: Congratulations, you have been hired. You were ecstatic until you heard the last sentence from HR: When can you come to work?
At this time, you suddenly seemed not so anxious: because you not only submitted your resume, but also two or three others I had a great time chatting with you from the personal human resources department, especially those two or three people, and from a company with a particularly good salary.
Although this company has not given a reply so far, you estimate that there should be news in a day or two. . . After thinking about it, you suddenly seem to be in no rush to sign a contract with the other party.
Because you start to feel: there doesn’t seem to be such a rush.
The same principle applies to chasing girls to express their feelings. Just like you looking for a job, a single person who is looking for a mate has several other contacts. , maybe the relationship is very good. If you don't confess so quickly, she may not know what you are thinking, but once you confess, it is equivalent to giving her a clear message: I have captured this person.
Since I have captured this person, do I need to be so anxious to establish a relationship with him at this time?
It seems that it is not necessary, I might as well wait a little longer. .
Chasing a girl in a hurry to express your love is actually letting the other party make important decisions hastily without knowing much about you.
In situations of entanglement and anxiety, people tend to make conservative choices. In this case, girls will basically refuse to be with you and remain in the familiar single state.
Therefore, rushing to confess your feelings will often make the other person give you the answer you least want to hear after careful consideration.
In addition, premature confession will also make you fall into an anxious mood: because you will be entangled with the other person all the time. What is it like to think that you care deeply about the other person's feelings. In this state, your psychological state can easily become unbalanced, and you will unconsciously put too much pressure on the other party during the communication process.
I have never met many people who can be happy and normal in their relationship after confessing their love. As far as I know, many people will be in a very unstable state after confessing their love:
HeThey will easily over-interpret all the behaviors and actions of the other party, and will try their best to force the other party to make a final commitment. Once the other party shows hesitation, they will become impatient and frustrated.
In your opinion, your words have been made clear enough, and you don’t know what the other person is thinking; in the other person’s opinion, you can’t find any clues at all. She needs some time to consider your request; when the other person is hesitant, you become more anxious and even think that the other person is a scumbag who plays with your feelings
In repeated misunderstandings, one day Your emotions will collide fiercely, and in the end you won't even be friends anymore.
Look, what are the benefits of chasing a girl and rushing to confess your feelings?
