When many boys are chasing girls, they can't help but confess their love to the girl first. However, such behavior often results in rejection. Why does this happen? Below, let’s find the answer with the editor.
1. Confessing to a girl first will put too much pressure on her
Basically Most girls have difficulty making choices and have difficulty making decisions on some things, so they all look forward to guidance and guidance from boys.
The behavior of chasing a girl to express her love first is forcing her to make a choice, which will only bring pressure to her. And you have not played the role of guidance and leadership. If you are not handsome and rich, then girls will often choose to escape when faced with your confession, and they will naturally reject you.
2. Confessing to a girl first will make you lose the challenge
People have a mentality that The easier it is to get, the less you will cherish it. It's like a game that's too easy and can be passed easily. No one wants to play it because it's not challenging.
And if the game is a little difficult and cannot be easily passed, or even takes a long time and energy to pass a level, then you will become more and more fascinated by this game and be willing to spend more time. Time to play.
The same is true for getting along with girls. If you tell a girl your feelings too early, and the girl will get your like without any effort, then the girl will find it unchallenging. You lose interest, and if a girl can't guess our thoughts easily, she will find us more challenging and more willing to get to know us. When a girl puts more into this relationship, she will like us more and more. us.
Therefore, if a girl confesses her love before she has shown her charm and devoted herself to the relationship, then in the eyes of the girl you will be a challenging person, and naturally she will not Accept your confession.
3. Confessing to a girl first will make you lose the initiative
In a relationship between the sexes, the initiative is It is very important. Only by occupying a dominant position can you have the upper hand and easily win. When you are chasing a girl, you directly confess your love to the girl first, which is equivalent to giving your initiative to the girl and putting yourself in a good position. Passively reloading can only wait to be eliminated. Therefore, the result of pursuing a girl and confessing your love first will often be a "good guy card".
Four. When chasing a girl, confess your feelings first to make her feel like a transaction
Girls are all emotional animals. I care more about the resultProcedure.
But if you chase a girl and confess your love first, you are directly abandoning the process and skipping to the result.
It will only make girls feel that what you are doing is too purposeful, and they really want it to be a transaction. If I easily agree to your confession, then I will become a materialistic woman, someone who will not be cherished or despised by others.
And when a girl doesn’t have what she wants or the value she embodies in you, this is equivalent to you wanting to buy something from her but not paying the corresponding price. This is unreasonable. The way of expressing love will not attract the other person, and may even arouse her disgust, so if she wants to know where you are in her heart, if she doesn't care about you, it will be useless no matter how much you think about how to express your love for someone.
After understanding the above four reasons, I believe everyone also understands why you should not confess your feelings first when chasing a girl.
Therefore, if you want to get out of singles smoothly, it is not too late to make her interested in you and then confess your love. After all, confession is only the clarion call for final victory, not a charge to launch an attack!
