If we want to chase a girl, we need to get to know her, and then start with her preferences. However, a cold girl rarely takes the initiative to share her life, and if she always asks, a cold girl He quickly becomes impatient and then becomes even more aloof.

Therefore, when chasing aloof girls, we cannot always ask, but we must learn to use the side of chat Get to know her. Or you can get to know her through relationships with her best friends, roommates, and colleagues. It would be more appropriate to make use of these relationships. Because a cold girl will not be cold when facing people she is familiar with, and she will not be cold when facing her best friends. They usually have a circle, so our strategy is to understand as much as possible or integrate into her circle. circle.

For example:

When starting the topic, we first start from the perspective of a friend, saying, "My friend brought back a special product from Japan and said it is very delicious", and then send a message. Picture passed. (Of course, it can also be said that it was brought back from Xinjiang for the purpose of showing it to be more special.)

At this time, a cold girl may say "Oh, I haven't eaten it before."

We can get to know her through her friends at this time, such as "Didn't your friend (best friend, roommate, colleague) also go to Japan last time? Did she bring anything interesting? "Something is wrong", try to talk in a declarative tone.

At this time, the aloof girl may still reply coldly "No".

At this time when we are faced with aloofness, remember, we cannot retreat, because this is her way of protecting herself, we just need to continue chatting.

At this time, you can use some chatting skills, such as replying "It seems that you lack a friend like me, so I can make you fat. Look how thin you are."

At this time, the cold girl will definitely react. She may think: This guy actually said that I am thin and picks on my faults! (Girls will naturally not be cold when they have emotions. ; Moreover, maintaining our posture frame will also make girls feel that this boy is interesting, that is, attractive; in addition, by chatting in this way, we shine the spotlight on girls, and girls will be more willing to chat, and during the entire chat process, we will also You can get to know her from the side without asking too many questions and get rid of her aloof attitude).

So, she might reply, "I've lost some weight, this is just right." A cold girl may still maintain a cold attitude, but remember our strategy is not to back down, because you can find that in her replies, her mood will gradually become less cold and she will talk more. Yes, and willing to share.

When we continue to joke in this atmosphere, we can reply "Come here, I can squeeze your bones even if I pinch you~" (image description, stretching relationship)

Then let's forget it at this time In the worst case scenario, a cold-hearted girl will actually send you an eye-roll emoji. She will not send this eye-roll to other men casually, because this is the expression of her emotions and the removal of her cold attitude. .

At this time, we can also reply with a naughty emoticon first, and then continue to interact. Slowly, you will find that she is not cold at all.

Don’t you understand why we want to talk like this? Let me summarize it for you:

First: We didn’t ask directly at the beginning, but through friends’ profiles. Show, or in other words, we provide value to her first, let her know us first, let her know that we are "valuable and harmless" men, and fill the sense of security first.

In other words, you know that the source of her coldness is due to her insecurity and fear of getting hurt. But you won't be afraid of her aloofness. On the contrary, you will persist, and your persistence will be a sense of security for her. Moreover, if you discover her vulnerability but still accept her, then she will not be cold to you.

Second: Use normal chatting skills for chasing girls to open up the atmosphere and mood of the chat. The reason for doing this is to prevent you from being screened out by her aloofness, that is, you will not be afraid, nervous or discouraged, but will chat like a normal girl and occasionally use some chatting skills. Flirt and talk to her.

After talking about this process, the cold girl will gradually become enthusiastic.

Because she understands that the person in front of her now is a "safe and sincere Wang Leehom", not a "careful, easily shrinking loser", that's all.