When you are on a blind date, it is easy to meet a girl that you are satisfied with. However, because you don’t understand the girl and don’t know how to start the topic, the girl loses interest in you. In the end, the girl may not even want to leave her contact information with you.

How should boys chat during a blind date and how to expand the topic?

1. Development of the topic

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When going on a blind date, I don’t know what to say. You might as well express your good impression of her first, and then use a relaxed and natural conversation to introduce topics of interest to both parties. Let me share with you some common topics:

1. Childhood ideals

Let’s talk about your childhood ideals. This is a very interesting topic, both relaxed and enjoyable. Can enhance feelings. However, don't hold on to the conversation. Let her talk. The more excited she is, the better your chances will be.

2. Brothers and sisters

What should we talk about when we meet for the first time? Talk about her parents. It is a bit inappropriate. If her parents are separated or divorced, it will cause her trouble. unhappy. A common topic is talking about brothers and sisters. Talking about brothers and sisters can deepen understanding and liven up the atmosphere. And if you want to know about her family, it shows that you like her, and you can easily win her trust.

　3. Favorite Food

If you are dating in a restaurant or bar, talk about your favorite foods. This is a pleasant topic. By talking about food, you can not only understand her tastes and find common ground, but you no longer have to worry about running out of topics.

　4. Future plans

Can you talk about your life in college? Do you still want to continue going to school? She may be very interested in these topics and talk about her life in detail. Student life, interesting things, various honors achieved, etc. However, she may also react coldly, just say that her current job major is inappropriate, and then change the subject. However, no matter what happens, it gives you a good opportunity to compliment her.

5. Friends around you

Talk to her about her friends. Maybe you're not familiar with them, but that's okay. She will be excited to talk about her friends, the details of their relationship, the time and place of meeting. Maybe you are not interested at all, but don't be impatient. This is a great opportunity for you to get to know her. Want to continue developing a relationship with her? Start by getting to know her friends.

2. Listening

Once you have found the topic, how can you have a good time chatting with girls? ?First of all, you have to learn to listen. Girls hate men who talk endlessly, inflate themselves, interrupt others, and only talk about themselves from beginning to end. Because in the eyes of girls, this is at most a sign of insecurity, or else they are thinking: What on earth do you want to prove?

Women in the new era are very smart.. They see too much and hear too much. Most of them know what you say and what discounts should be made. It reflects what kind of person you are. After all, many girls have already developed their own set of rules to evaluate the authenticity of men.

Successful communication is a two-way street. Especially when a girl is willing to speak, you'd better open your ears and listen carefully. Just because a girl is willing to talk to you doesn't necessarily mean she likes you, but at least you've given her some initial trust. When the attraction between a man and a woman is built on a platform of trust, the relationship is considered stable.

Of course, one of the main purposes of listening is to collect information. You can learn directly from the girl: what she desires, hates, cares about, as well as her attitude and values ??towards things. How to do it? The key is to use open-ended questions to guide the girl to talk.

3. Adjust the atmosphere

The key to a successful blind date lies in the atmosphere. Most of the time, don't deliberately limit the topic, because the atmosphere we need to create is very simple, which is to make the girl feel comfortable and non-pressured chatting with us.

But girls don’t just want the atmosphere, they also want to meet men who can stimulate their thoughts. In other words, if you can express your unique opinions on the matter at the right time, or point out the subtleties that have not been noticed, and describe it in a story-like plot, you will make her feel excited like never before.

For example: “The process of getting to know someone is like opening a gift [gestures pointing to myself]. Until it is nakedly presented to you, you never know what kind of surprise it will bring you. "In this passage, he compared himself to a gift, suggesting that she should expect to know me, and then used the ambiguous words "naked" to leave room for her imagination.

Of course, when dating, try to express more in behavior and listen more, because the more people talk, the less they can hide themselves. If your goal is to get to know her, it's definitely a good idea to listen to her talk.