Many boys can’t find a girlfriend who suits them, mainly because they are too persistent. It is undeniable that sometimes you need persistence to find a girlfriend, but you can't make all girls like you. Excessive persistence will not do any good except waste your time and affect your mentality.

So which girls should not be too persistent when chasing them?

1. Those who don’t like you Girls

This should be easy to understand, that is, you have got to know her through your efforts, but you are not her type. For example, if the girl you know likes the muscular type, but you are the warm-toned type, then it will be useless no matter what you do. No matter how great a master you are, if girls don’t naturally like your type, it’s useless for you to be a master. Therefore, for a girl who naturally doesn't like you, once you know her taste, you can give up.

2. The girl you can’t date out

You and she can have a lively chat, and you will feel happy chatting with each other, but as soon as you make an invitation, this girl starts to suddenly He won't reply to you, or he'll act very hesitant. When encountering this situation, you must first judge whether this girl really doesn't want to go out with you, or whether she just doesn't want to go out temporarily due to some objective factors. Brothers, this is very important. You must be able to clearly distinguish, "Then The difference between "girls who can date you if you work hard and wait" and "girls who can't date you no matter how hard you try." If it's the former, you should continue to wait for the opportunity. If it's the latter, give up decisively. Because there are a large number of "chat machines" among girls. They only like to chat and do not like to have further contact with you. They will give you hope but not let you realize it, so you will waste a lot of time, energy and emotions, which is very terrible. The purpose of a man's chat is to invite someone. If you just want to find a simple "chat partner", then that's a different matter.

3. A girl who is not in the same world as you

This is relative, because with you Not from the same world, but maybe from the same world as other men. For example, after you strike up a conversation, you learn that this girl likes nightclub life, but you don’t go to such places very often. The people the two of you interact with have different places to play. She likes to have fun, but you like to read and take pictures. So for this kind of girl, it's better to give up as soon as possible. Even if you get her at all costs, you will be very tired later and you won't feel happy inside. There is a line in JJ's "The Story Is Delicate" that I like very much, "It turns out that falling in love is a tacit understanding." Yes, tacit understanding is very important. A pair of men and women who have no tacit understanding will be very tired even if they are forced to be together. You I won't feel really happy. In other words, the girl you are chasing must be a girl who conforms to your lifestyle and the rules of the world. If she breaks the rules from the beginning, why is there any need to persist?

4. Imaginary true destiny

Yes, you read that right. It is "true destiny". But here, I added an attributive, which is "imaginary". Generally speaking, there are two kinds of true destiny. One is that you and she have gone through many ups and downs, and you naturally have a high tacit understanding with each other. It is the only one in the other person's heart. This is the true destiny and must never be given up. But another kind of destiny is that you actually don’t know her at all, and you haven’t been in contact with her for long, but after you strike up a conversation, you find that she is what you imagined in every aspect, and then you take it for granted that she is your “true destiny” ". So for this kind of "imaginary" true destiny, if you find that it is completely useless after working hard for a while, you have to know how to give up. Many buddies are usually very persistent. I want to chase you for a year or two. Some buddies even said to the woman that I will not give up on you and will always wait for you. Don't do this stupid behavior again. It has no effect except making women think you are stupid. It is true that it is very painful to give up your "true life", with all kinds of unwillingness and reluctance, but there is no way, this is life, grit your teeth and give up her, maybe one day in the future you will find that you are lucky to "give up" If you leave her, it is because you gave up on her that you met the next "better her".

If you want to find a perfect girlfriend, you must learn to give up properly, because only by giving up those girls who are not suitable for you can you have time to find a girlfriend who is more suitable for you!