When I first pursued a girl in school, I asked my classmates, how do you pursue a girl? He told me that as long as you give a gift and she accepts it, it means she is willing to develop. So simple! I rushed straight away!

1. Don’t pursue girls blindly

Just rush and realize something is wrong. I'm the kind of person who doesn't look back until I hit the wall. I chased him for four years without even holding my hand, so I could only get a good guy card. In fact, she also tried to persuade me to stay. She said, can you wait until I finish my studies before pursuing me? My studies are my main focus now. How persuasive can this statement be from someone with average or average academic performance, to decisively end four years of persistence and replace someone.

I summarized several reasons for the failure at that time. I found that I was very sensitive, I was worried that I would do something wrong, and I was very insecure. My grades in school were not very good, my parents didn't care much about me, and I couldn't beat my classmates in games, so I could only find my existence in chasing girls to prove that I had survived. I deified her, I thought she was the most wonderful woman in the world.

She made a lot of unreasonable requests, and I couldn’t refuse her:

Just tell me what you want, and I’ll buy it;

She wanted to see me, and I Show up immediately;

Don’t lose your temper and be gentle, even if she did something wrong;

There are many details that I have almost forgotten, after all, it happened more than ten years ago.

I thought at the time that I was the prettiest guy, I was the gentlest, and she would definitely choose me. In the end, she changed several boyfriends, and then she realized that there was no way we could be together.

She said she didn’t like smokers, so she chose a smoker as her boyfriend.

She said she didn’t like someone with a bad temper, so she chose someone who liked fighting.

? ? ? ?

Very speechless.

2. When chasing girls, you should pay more attention to what girls do.

Don’t be the same as girls. They lie to avoid the current problem and just lie again next time they meet. Of course, boys do this too, but the number is several times smaller. Boys' thinking tends to solve problems rationally and is logical. Girls think more emotionally and make decisions through feelings and experiences.

In other words, for boys, one is one and two is two. Most girls know that one is one, but if you speak louder, she can say one into two. So this experience taught me to listen less to what girls say and watch more to what girls do.

She likes to have more contact with nature, but doesn’t like to stay away naturally. Her hesitation means that she doesn’t like or trust her enough. It’s as simple as that.

I used to feel that I was a very impetuous person, and girls could affect my mood by just saying a few words. Later I discovered that I couldn't feel loveWhen I was young, I would go crazy. I would confront the girls angrily and ask them if they were treating me as a spare tire. I knew I was worthless, but I couldn't do it. I could only be helpless and angry. It wasn’t until I experienced a lot of things later that I looked away.

I think girls are girls, and girlfriends are girlfriends. I don’t have to worry about our relationship at all, whether she loves me or not.

If I were a reliable boy, he would naturally choose me. If I were a Muggle, anyone who followed me would run away. At this point, I slowly put the focus on myself.

If I had a thousand yuan, I used to give 900 to the girl and keep 100 for myself. Now I have a thousand yuan, I will keep 800 for myself, and I will pay the remaining 200 if the girls perform well. What's the difference between the two?

The former is because I am afraid of losing you. I give you my best and I pray that you don’t leave. The latter is that I prioritize investing in myself and making myself stronger so that I can better protect those who follow me.

But to be honest, although I said 200 depends on performance, if it makes me feel happy and loved, it doesn’t matter if I give you 1,000, I will just earn it myself.

What I hate the most is that after I have paid, the other party still dislikes this or that, no matter how little feedback I receive, I am really speechless. If you are lucky enough to meet this kind of person, run away! Prioritize investing in yourself. Only when you have your own opinion and attitude will others fall in love with you. Don't try to influence anyone. I have tried it, but it is a waste of money, effort and time.