Every time when security is mentioned, everyone unnaturally puts this word on girls. However, many boys also need a sense of security on the road to relationships. So what should boys do if they don’t have a sense of security? ?

1. Give the other person a sense of security

Every time it is said that girls like boys, they understand , tolerant, loving, and considerate, many people’s first reaction is that if I do this, won’t I become a bitch?

Well, I believe it, and sometimes I can’t be single. There is a reason.

It’s like when you go to someone’s house as a guest, you don’t say anything, you just sit on the sofa, do nothing, and just wait to eat ready-made food.

Who would like a guest like this?

If you want to make people like you, don’t you have to show off a little bit first? When you first meet, the girl should love you. I can't help myself? Are you Aaron Kwok or Daniel Wu?

Do you also have to stand up straighter, behave more diligently, have a sweeter mouth, and have a warmer attitude, so that people can pay attention to you? To you, I am willing to get to know you better.

Do you think this is flattery or giving in vain? Why should there be a step-by-step process?

Even if you are looking for a job, do you still know how to dress decently and put forward a resume? It's better to write. For whom? Isn’t it all for yourself to get the offer smoothly?

Therefore, early investment (action) is necessary. If you want to gain a sense of security, you must first let the other party perceive you. Only with sincerity can she dare to accept you, right?

Stop saying anything. Why should I take the initiative? Why don’t girls take the initiative?

How do you know that other girls are not learning how to make boys like themselves?

Besides, I have given you a lot of useful information before. After judging whether a girl likes you, , you should pay more.

2. Leave some space for each other

Once many boys enter the relationship mode, they start to have unlimited love. Use your "boyfriend power".

This "boyfriend power" is not the other "boyfriend power", but it means that some boys especially like to control others.

If falling in love means losing freedom, then who is willing to talk about it?

Of course, the freedom here must at least be limited to mutual loyalty, respect, and love.

For example, if a girl has perfected her waistcoat line, but she just wants to wear a midriff-baring top, and you keep nagging her, do you think the girl will be happy?

If it were you, you would Are you also annoyed when you want to play games for a while but are constantly being teased by girls?

So, one of the requirements for mutual respect is to leave appropriate space for each other.

3. Stabilize your own position

There is a way to improve yourself, which is called stabilizing your own position.

If you feel insecure, it’s not necessarily because the other person didn’t give you feedback, or it’s not necessarily because the other person doesn’t like you enough, but because you feel panic about your status.

You don’t know how long the other person will like you, and you don’t know if she is sincere. This is a sign of lack of confidence.

In fact, confident people don’t worry about this at all. Do you know why?

Because they have capital!

The so-called capital here does not mean looks. Handsome and rich (of course better), at this stage, you have to find ways to enhance your irreplaceability.

In the final analysis, no one can keep anyone forever unless she is willing to do so.

4. Frank communication

The ways in which couples and friends around me get along are really varied. Some people quarrel whenever they disagree, and they quarrel every day, but things go smoothly.

Some people will start a cold war when they are unhappy. It seems that there is no smoke, but it is the most emotionally damaging. In the end, we lost our expectations for each other.

This is probably why there is such a saying: It is better to quarrel than not to bother to quarrel.

It seems to be the same principle. If you can express your dissatisfaction, at least I know what you care about and where I need to work hard. Instead of saying nothing and relying on me to guess.

This is what makes people most insecure. I don’t know what you are thinking, and you don’t want to say it. If you guessed wrong, the conflict intensified, and in the end we had no choice but to say goodbye.

From this perspective, quarreling is also a kind of communication.

Of course, it would be best if you can communicate calmly and without quarreling.

For example, you can set up some rules that only belong to the two of you. Make a three-part agreement. You must go home before 11 o'clock, you can't stay up all night, and you should say hello to each other every time you go on a business trip. For holidays, The two of us have to spend time together and cook a meal together.

Don’t underestimate these. After writing it down in black and white, people will have the desire to execute it. This is actually a process of two people getting used to each other, and it is also a kind of fun in life.