You are talking about feelings, but she is talking about benefits. Have you ever experienced such a relationship? You try your best to work hard for your future, work hard, and convince your parents. But one day she told you, let's break up, I fell in love with another person, because he can make me happier, and my parents are more optimistic about me and him.
Why would a girlfriend who has been together for many years marry a blind date that she has been with for a few months? The saddest thing is that everyone who knows you thinks you will marry her. You don't understand why she was the one who promised to marry you in the first place, and now she is the one who gives up so easily. Is it really that easy for her? Have you fallen in love with someone else?
In fact, this is a mismatch in relationships. What you talk about is feelings, but what she talks about is interests.
1: The standard for measuring everything with emotion
Not long ago, a fan left a message that stung. I thought, "I thought that if we worked hard, we could overcome the difficulties in long-distance relationships. I thought that if we worked hard, we could be recognized by each other's families.
But all this was what I thought. All along, I was the only one who was there She worked hard, but she was thinking about how to get the maximum benefit from me. My feelings were all I had, but they were just embellishments in her life."
A common problem among many women is that they are accustomed to using emotions as the standard to measure everything, but how about many men? This disease is really troublesome, as it makes people ignore facts and morality and plunge into self-conception. Unable to extricate himself from the illusion, daydreaming about love.
Two: Measuring Love
But in most cases, women are very realistic, especially When making a choice, she does not give up her love with you in desperation, but chooses the most advantageous one after weighing it.
For example, some women will give up their first love of many years for a blind date they have known for less than a year. This may not necessarily mean that they have really fallen in love with their blind date, but that the blind date is more important than the relationship with their first love. The object can bring him more practical and needed benefits, such as money, status, or a better job opportunity.
You can call her a scumbag, but you can’t call her wrong. There is nothing wrong with wanting better things and pursuing what you need more. But some women are wrong in that they want both the fish and the bear's paw.
While holding on to her first love and refusing to let go, she was still ambiguously involved with her new love, enjoying the love dividends brought to her.
Three: Love can be vulgar, but it cannot be evil
We do not deny that love has a secular side. But love should not have a dark side. Love itself is beautiful. It can be imperfect, but it cannot be perfect.When someone should be taken advantage of, if you want to break up, break it off clearly, and if you want to fall in love, talk about it openly.
If you want love and she wants benefits, then say it and have a good talk. Otherwise, it may seem that you are accommodating each other. In fact, the future is pale, with inconsistent goals and inconsistent needs. Inconsistency will only produce shriveled fruit in the end.
In a relationship, the realistic party is often the one who is most likely to give up on love. How silly it would be to give up realistic interests for one person - this is the sentiment that many people do not want to say.
In fact, you can choose the answer you want to believe as to whether he loves you or not. However, you must also understand that she will have nothing to do with you in the future. Love is not everything. Fortunately, everything is not love. Those who miss you are destined not to belong to you. But in the future, don't love with your eyes closed.
