"Why was it that I was having a good chat with a girl yesterday, but today she suddenly ignored me and was blocked?" This is a question that many boys have in mind. It is very likely that you have committed the following 5 taboos when chatting with girls.
1. Show off and flatter yourself too much
There is a saying: full The bottle is not half full and the bottle is banging. It is used to describe the kind of person who has high ambitions and low ambitions. Such people are very common in life. They have little ability, but they brag all day long about how capable and powerful they are:
"Every ex-girlfriend of mine always misses me", "I don't Is it so difficult to know how to do business? I just do it and I get the first place." There is also a more straightforward statement, "My friends around me basically have B.B.A."
To put it bluntly, men who constantly show off their achievements to women they meet for the first time are “showing off whatever they lack” because of their extremely low self-esteem.
Who knows, when you are bragging, the girl may be full of ridicule.
2. Directly enter the relationship mode
"If you date me, I will I will leave all the money to you" and "I can accept having children two years after marriage."
Talking about dating or marriage when you first meet will make girls think you are nonsense. More than once, girls have told me that they have had such embarrassing experiences. There are many things in the world that "women need very much but men find troublesome", such as foreplay and the prelude for two people to talk and get along.
Perhaps the two parties originally met with the motive of becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, but it is often not a good strategy to go straight to the point at the beginning. You must get to know each other!
And I have said more than once that girls especially like "the excitement within a safe range". This is the first time the two of them have met. Wouldn't it be good to spend some time exploring unknown areas? Do you like talking about home life so much? Then you can just make an appointment directly. Wal-Mart is ready to sell New Year’s goods, and there’s no need to meet up at a high-end restaurant for coffee and dessert!
3. Mom’s boy
In fact, I don’t need to describe this too much. Every sentence starts with “my mom”, which will quickly make girls label you as a “mom’s boy”.
There are quite a lot of interesting stories about “Mama’s babies” when you search online. I even saw a policeman who didn't want to work because it was too hard, and asked my mother to go to the police station and resign to the chief.
It’s too late for a grown boy to show off his masculinity in front of a girl, and he still talks about my mother’s…my mother’s…, no wonder girls also think about their mother-in-law - "Go to nmd".
4. Talking eagerly about women’s topics
“Are you wearing male-colored lipstick today?”, “Do you take a bath with milk at home? ", "Do you think the one with wings is really easier to use?"
Some boys want to deliberately close the distance with girls and create an image of a warm and considerate man, so they deliberately talk about things that only girls do. The topic of discussion turns out to be sissy or gay by accident.
Regarding this point, I originally thought it was okay. At most, it would make girls think that this boy is a bit effeminate, so it’s harmless. Later, a female friend told me that I learned that when some boys ask these intimate questions about women, they make girls feel very uncomfortable and even feel violated.
5. Talking about too many negative topics
You can be squeezed by the boss!", "The portions in this restaurant are too small!"
When a man and a woman meet for the first time, they should be happy. There are so many interesting things in the world. , but boys choose to talk about these annoying things, and girls will probably have two reactions:
1. This guy has too much negative energy, so stay away from him in the future;
2 .I’m not your mother, what do you want me to do if you complain to me?
If it’s a face-to-face chat, the girl might give a few perfunctory words of comfort, but if it’s a WeChat chat, I guarantee that the other party won’t make any mistakes. In minutes, he will use the legendary three treasures of beautiful girls: "Yeah, hehe, go take a shower!"
These boys who keep complaining may not really be angry youths, they may just watch too much news, or they may You sincerely regard the other person as a good friend and hope to share the same hatred. Of course, you may also want to show your accurate criticism of the world situation. But no matter what, paying attention to the mood of your female companion is probably what you should do now.
