Nowadays, many boys lack experience in chasing girls, so when chasing girls they like, they often put themselves in a very humble position, and even do not hesitate to be a licking dog in order to win their favor. But in the end, the result is often nothing. So how can you stop being a licking dog and chase the girl you like?

First of all, you must know that a girl’s favor is not gained by kneeling and licking, but earned by oneself. Yes, so if you only treat girls blindly and don't have any framework of your own, you will definitely not get the love of girls.

1. The meaning of frame

Speaking of frame, many boys may be unfamiliar with this word. In fact, a framework is simply an attitude, a principle, and even a bottom line. To facilitate your understanding, let me give you two real-life examples:

When we go to a company for an interview, I believe we don’t need to be told by others. We should all know what to prepare. Although the recruitment information We were only reminded to bring our resumes, but we still prepared a lot of things other than resumes. This was the framework and unspoken rules for our interviews.

For another example, when we were in school, we might be very casual when chatting with our classmates, and we might even say some bad words, but in front of the teacher, we would become obedient and very polite. Why? What? This is because the identity of the teacher is a framework for the students.

When many boys are chasing girls, they feel that they have no money and no appearance, so they need to be nice to girls, but when he blindly When you are nice to girls and satisfy any of their requests without asking for anything in return, you have fallen into a wrong dog-licking framework.

When you fall into this framework, you will unconsciously think, "She is my goddess, she is my favorite, I must chase her, I must make her my daughter." Friend, I must be nice to her.”

So, you start to be nice to her unconditionally, ask for help, send red envelopes and give gifts... Invisibly, your relationship becomes like an ordinary person - —The master-servant frame of the goddess.

The more you give and the more devoted you are, the less willing you are to give up easily. So your status becomes lower and lower, from ordinary people to servants, and then to dog lickers. And she is still your goddess. Therefore, she looks down on you and thinks you are not worthy of her.

2. How to establish the correct framework for chasing girls

Therefore, if you want to stop being a licker, When we catch up with the girl we like, we need to get out of the dog-licking frame and establish our own correct frame. So what should we do?

The first step is to be confident. As boys, no matter whether girls like us or not, we must be confident. Only when you are confident can your relationship with girls be equal. In this way, the chat framework can be balanced and you will not show kindness to girls. At the same time, he became the other party's licking dog.

For example, if a girl says "I don't like boys younger than me", if it is to please the frame, you will be eager to prove yourself to the girl and say that although you are young, you will be good to the girl. This is undoubtedly It means falling into the girl's frame and becoming a girl's backup. If we want to maintain our own framework, we can say this: "The female college student is holding a gold brick, and you are only two years older than me, so you should pay for half a gold brick."

You and the girl just have a normal relationship. Your excessive grievances will not be able to seek the girl’s full satisfaction, but will only make the girl worse. What you have to do is to maintain your own attitude and framework, so that the relationship with the girl can be healthy. Only if you are equal will she respect you and be attracted to you.