"Inappropriate" is not only a word used by many girls to reject boys, but also a reason used by many couples to break up. But in relationships, is there really such a thing as "suitable" and "unsuitable"?

In fact, in most relationships, there are not only inappropriate statements, but even inappropriateness is the normal state of relationships.

Why do you say that?

We all say that to accomplish something, we need three elements: "timing", "geographical convenience" and "people and people", so I will just follow these elements. Let’s analyze it with you.

First of all, "timing", in the process of a pair of lovers getting along, I often call it "matching of emotional appeals".

What does it mean? You must have seen this situation: two people are in love, one of them feels that he has reached his age and is anxious to get married, while the other feels that he is still young and wants to be stable in a few years. End again.

There is even an extreme situation: two people are together, one person thinks about long-term development and wants to get married, and the other person thinks that whatever he wants at this age, he can just have fun.

This is the wrong time: two people are not in tune with the process of love. No one is wrong, but no one can convince the other.

And this kind of conflict is really not uncommon, and many more people will encounter this situation - two people got along very close when they were in college, but after graduation, they still stay alone. When they were in college, they wanted to be with each other every day; while the other person began to think about letting go of their relationship and developing their own career after graduation.

As time changes and as everyone grows up, even those who were once particularly close partners will also change because of this. At this stage, the emotional demands of the two people do not match, so they become inappropriate.

You two were a perfect match at the beginning, and everyone who saw you felt that you were a perfect match. But as you gradually grow up, you may suddenly discover at a certain moment: everyone has different ideas and different pursuits.

Do you think this is because of "not loving enough"? Is it wrong for two people to separate in the end?

The second is "the geographical location". I believe that when it comes to this, many people in different places People who are in love really feel deeply.

The two people may have met each other because of classmates, fellow villagers, or even playing games. How to talk is appropriate and how to get along comfortably.

But when it comes to long-term development, everyone is dumbfounded - which city is better to go to? In which city is the best place to end the long-distance relationship?

It is really difficult Make a decision.

I know there will be people who will say: This is still not enough love, this is just lack of courage.

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What if you realize that if you go to that place, there is a high probability that you will not have any further room for growth than you do now, and that you will not find a better job, just to marry this person?

Can you still be so determined?

If you can't and you want the other party to come over, then Allow me to torture my soul:

Since you are not willing to do it yourself, why do you still ask the other party to do this for you?

The last thing is "humanity", this " "Human harmony" not only refers to the harmonious relationship between two people, but also whether the interpersonal relationships around the other person are harmonious.

When there are misunderstandings and conflicts between you, and there are irreconcilable conflicts between you, who should you listen to?

Many issues in relationships cannot be divided into right and wrong. :

You are a chronic person, and he is a quick-tempered person. Who gives in?

You like to pursue novelty, and he likes a stable and ordinary life. How do you live this life?

Do you think you should wait until you have a financial foundation before having a child? He thinks the earlier the child is, the better. Who do you listen to?

You said that if you are in love, you will definitely make concessions. of.

Yes, you will definitely give in in the early stage, but after giving in for a long time, whether it is you or the other party, sometimes you will have an idea -

" I've made so many concessions for you before, why can't you just follow me?"

The other person will most likely not think that this is a concession, because he feels that he is right from the beginning to the end.

Coupled with the opposition of parents, inappropriate family relationships, and the influence of friends around you... Now what do you think? The problem is not that serious. Most likely, it is because your relationship has not reached that stage yet. When it reaches that stage, these relationships will give you a headache and make you unable to sleep.

Again, no one is wrong. Everyone has grown up with this character and this family, and has lived for more than 20 years without any problems - but once this person and you When we are together, you will wonder why this environment and this person have so many problems.

Can this be solved by love? Obviously not.

Therefore, inappropriateness is the normal state between lovers. The three conditions of "the right time, the right place, the right people, and the right people" are often missing one or even two of the three, which is the most common situation.

Also because of this, I was able to reach the end in the endOnly two people who are together deserve to be celebrated and worthy of everyone gathering together to celebrate:

This is not only a celebration of your relationship, but also a celebration of this extremely low probability.

Many people say that falling in love is tiring, and chasing girls is also tiring. In fact, this is not because of tiredness, but because the losses in the game are too great.

Intimate relationships are divided into "love relationships" and "ambiguous relationships." In the game of intimate relationships, the best result is not winning, but balancing.

That is, on the premise of maintaining the continuation of the game, improving one's experience in intimate relationships.