I feel that there are more and more older leftover women nowadays, and some of them are still very high-quality women. However, although they desire to be single, they do not have to get married. On the contrary, many women think that it is good not to get married. Do they really don’t want to get married, or is it because they haven’t met the right person? Below, Xiaoyu Love will analyze for everyone why women nowadays don’t want to get married? Which aspect is more affected?
1. Women had no choice before
In fact, women before did not necessarily want to get married, they just had no other choice. Before the industrial revolution, agriculture was the primary productive force, and farming was the main means of household output. Men had the advantage in physical strength, so they controlled the core productivity and the right to speak in society. You see, the word "male" is Tian + Li, which refers to a man's main task.
The production model of agricultural society determines that women are the "second sex" that depends on men for their existence. Because of insufficient productivity, women have to depend on men for life, which is what was called in the past "married women". "Stronger than my family" "Marry a man, marry a man, wear clothes and eat". In exchange, the woman must satisfy the man's physical needs, take good care of his children, and take care of his food and daily life.
Then, the Industrial Revolution came. When women can step on the spinning wheel and participate in social production instead of being limited to small family workshops, the feminist movement will inevitably come. It has nothing to do with ideas, but with social production methods. Today, although women’s educational opportunities and job opportunities have not yet reached a 1:1 ratio with men, they have improved tremendously. When women occupy enough social resources, they will inevitably oppose the past marriage model.
2. Women don’t want to get married because of society
Although society has developed, many men still have negative opinions about marriage. The expectations are still stuck in the period of agricultural civilization. In particular, after the founding of the People's Republic of China, it went through a series of turbulences before slowly completing industrialization. This change in concepts happened to occur between our parents' generation and ours. A considerable number of men still acquiesce that the childcare work and housework after marriage should be completed by their wives, and they hope that their wives will not be separated from production and provide part of the income for the family.
A woman will think it is normal to go to the mall to play with her children for a day. If a man goes to the mall to play with his children for a day, there is a high probability that he will be dubbed a "good father". If a family orders takeout every day and does not turn on the fire to cook, the women are more likely to be criticized. Many women realize this, evaluate the pros and cons, and reject marriage.
Of course, this does not mean that marriage is completely beneficial to women. Men also bear more financial pressure under this traditional concept, such as buying a house before marriage, and receiving bride price from their husband's family, etc. Therefore, more and more men are rejecting marriage, mainly due to the economic losses caused by marriage.
Therefore, today’s women who don’t want to get married are still more influenced by society. Of course, it may be that she has not met the right person to get married. If she meets the right person, maybe she will be willing to get married?
