Some boys obviously have very superior conditions, but they always make the other party feel disgusted when they chase girls. What is the reason? In fact, it is mainly because there is a problem with the mentality when chasing girls.

Now, let’s learn about the five major wrong mentality of chasing girls.

1. Chatting is just to connect with girls

Many brothers are not attracted to chatting with girls because they do not understand the purpose of chatting. Chatting with girls is not the purpose, chatting with girls is the process of achieving a certain purpose. For example, the purpose of your chat this time is to let girls know who you are, what you are doing, and what your advantages are. Then you should start the chat around this purpose, withdraw after the chat, and talk again next time. This way you won't run out of topics and it won't look like you have nothing to do but chat.

Also, the way you chat is never as important as your personal charm. Others will want to chat with you only if they think you are attractive. Chatting is a way to express your charm. It does not mean that you are unattractive. You can pick up girls just by relying on your chatting skills, but that you are People themselves are charming, and people can understand your charm through chatting.

2. Ignore whether the girl likes you or not

Many brothers greet girls and are good at chatting with them. They expose a lot of needs and express their love wildly to make girls know their love. This is because they think this can make girls be with them. They think it doesn't matter whether girls like them or not, as long as they are together. Basically ignoring the point that "a person is likely to be with you only if he likes you".

Such misunderstandings lead to the fact that all their actions are to get girls to be with them, asking for results at every turn, asking girls if they like them, wishing that girls would agree immediately after confessing their feelings, and not agreeing if they don’t. She is a scumbag. They make no effort at all to improve themselves so that girls will like them from the bottom of their hearts and want to be with them.

They will even treat being together as if they are talking about business, to persuade girls to be with them, explain the pros and cons, tell a lot of truths and truths, and try to use this kind of negotiation to make girls Be with him.

3. Too impatient

Many boys hope to study with the mentality of saving trouble and low cost. Various chatting skills can make a girl willing to give it to him, and then you don’t have to invest too much in meeting her, you don’t have to invite her to dinner and movies, you don’t have to give her gifts, and you don’t have to do a lot of things that he thinks are troublesome. Go straight into physical communication.

I despise boys who have this kind of mentality, but the point today is not to blame them, but even if they have such thoughts, the success rate is very low. After the two of them had contact in reality, they felt that they didn't feel the same.Wrong, I will chat with you more familiarly on the Internet. A person who has never even met you in person will not chat with you until something happens as soon as you meet. Unless this person doesn't take sex seriously, or this person is just too stupid to take the bait. However, there are very few.

4. Either ignore the outside or ignore the inside

Some brothers think that I don’t have a girl now. My friends are all because I don’t have money, or because I’m not handsome enough. There’s nothing wrong with me at all, it’s just external reasons.

In fact, even if you are rich and handsome, but you don’t know how to get along with girls and make them feel comfortable, you can only attract girls for a while through these glamorous appearances, but you cannot keep a person’s heart for a long time. , when all your shortcomings are exposed and you find that your inside is so unbearable, in sharp contrast with your outside, girls will be even more disappointed and run faster.

There are also some brothers who think that I only need to improve my emotional intelligence, improve my chat skills, and learn to show off, and that is enough. As for me not being good enough in society, I just need to pretend to be good.

We have always disagreed with this approach. Those high-quality Moments we post are because we live that kind of life ourselves, rather than pretending to do so. The reason for posting those Moments is to Tell you to improve your appearance. You have to be a handsome man, and you have to work hard in your career. You have to chat and talk nonsense without any real hard value, and you can only live an unscrupulous life of cheating.

5. Can’t find the right time to express love

Why do articles sometimes ask us to tell girls that I Do you like her? Isn’t it contradictory?

Many people don’t understand that expressing love and exposing the need for a girl to be with him immediately, and letting a girl know that he likes and notices him, are two different things. .

Let’s take a look at these two sentences:

A very anxious and loveless tone: “XXX I like you so much. I have liked you for a long time. Can you consider me? , give me a chance and we will be together, and I will treat you well. There are not many honest people like me, and I don’t want you to send me a good person card.”

Very sincere and serious tone: "XXX, I have always heard that you are very beautiful. Today I saw that you are indeed well-deserved and very elegant. I like you very much. Are you lucky enough to treat you to a meal?"

Let's compare these two. Does the sentence give people the same feeling?

The misunderstanding of chasing girls is like a girl saying to you "You are quite rich, please send me a red envelope" and "You are so rich, you want to be with me" Learn how to get rich." These two sentences give people different feelings.