Every boy will choose a different way to get along with each other in his own relationship. Some people try their best to understand the other person, know what she needs, and then treat each other well. In this way, he can satisfy the other person's needs while also satisfying his own needs, and the relationship can continue to develop in a good direction.
And some people will only continue to ask for and exert control from the other party, blindly satisfying their own needs. For example, when chatting, I found that the other party was a little slow in replying, so I kept asking: "Why are you silent again?" "You are ignoring me again." "Why do you always not respond?". Some girls are the same. They always ask boys to buy this or that for them. If they don’t buy, they will get angry and have a cold war.
Boys always like to control girls tightly by their side and excessively release his passion to girls, and girls will become more and more fed up with this boy.
If this continues, it will only drive girls further and further away.
Therefore, if you want to chase a girl, you must not over-expose your sense of need.
So how can you hide your neediness when chasing girls? Many people don’t understand this question.
Let’s first look at another question: why do some people have a good start but still mess up?< /p>
Because emotional development fluctuates, with ups and downs, they can only accept the rise but not the fall. If a girl's enthusiasm for him drops even a little bit, it will cause him to panic, lose his sense of security, and then try to "remediate" driven by instinct.
This way of remediation is either to manically demand that the girl must do something for him, or to grovel and ask the girl to give him affection.
For example, if a girl doesn’t reply to messages for a period of time, the boy will ask questions; or if a girl is a little cold to him, she will rush to give him gifts or treat him to dinner.
In short, his mentality was unbalanced, and he continued to engage in various irrational behaviors, which caused his own value to continue to decline, and eventually became a worthless target in the eyes of girls.
To put it bluntly, the core of whether you can grasp the sense of proportion is whether you can control your mentality and emotions, and whether you can move freely in a rational state.
To use a vivid metaphor, it is almost like flying a kite. When there is wind, we have to tighten the string to prevent the kite from blowing away with the wind. When there is no wind, we have to let the string out and actively run two steps to keep the kite floating in the sky.
The same goes for chasing girls. When you should take action, just follow the trend and advance in a wave. When you shouldn't take action, know how to give up the attack and release your charm.Try to stay attracted to girls.
Giving up is a kind of wisdom and a strategy. Just like retracting a fist to hit it more powerfully next time, sometimes giving up can give us a greater advantage.
After all, love is something that requires both people to be happy. It does not mean that just hard work and dedication are enough. If you don't know how to give up when it's time to give up, and just keep trying to get into trouble, the harder you work, the further you will push girls away.
From a small chat to an entire relationship, they all fall into the category that we may need to give up.
For example, girls do not reply to messages -
Girls suddenly stop replying while chatting You know, some people can't control their emotions and sense of need, and then keep questioning her. In fact, no matter what the reason is for a girl not replying to you, no matter what her mentality is at this time, this behavior will not help you get anything.
If a girl simply doesn’t want to reply to you, it means she is not interested in you. Then this kind of questioning is a pointless struggle. In her eyes, you are no different from being funny.
If a girl is unable to reply at the moment because of something, then to her, this kind of questioning is a childish behavior of you not being considerate, disrespecting her, or not being stable enough.
At this time, your relationship is just friends at best. If a girl responds to you, it is a matter of affection, but if she does not respond to you, it is her freedom.
So the correct approach is: if she doesn’t reply, then wait a few days until you have a suitable topic, then Reestablish contact with her. If you can't find a suitable topic, just comment on her circle of friends. As long as the girl replies, you can directly click on her chat interface and switch to private chat status.
It is better to give up than to struggle if your confession is rejected.
After confessing to a girl, she made it clear to you that she has no feelings for you. This shows that there is a lack of compatibility between you and there is nothing worthy of her liking in you.
At this time, if a boy repeatedly emphasizes "I really like you" and "I will definitely be good to you", you may think these words are sincere and touching, but to a girl who doesn't like you, To say that is actually nothing more than nonsense.
Confession is called romance for the first time, persistence for the second time, and confusion for the third time. If you are still rejected, it means that the girl really has no feelings for you and is not trying to be reserved with you. In this case, if you continue to pester the girl and say these things, it is called harassment.
Think about it from your perspective. A girl who weighs 200 and has acne on her face keeps saying that she likes you and wants to be your girlfriend. What is it like?
The correct approach is: The first thing to do when chasing a girlWhat you should do is show off your charm and let girls notice you, rather than rushing to confess. (If a girl accidentally sees into your inner thoughts and rejects you in advance, you should temporarily characterize the relationship as friends instead of going against the trend and forcefully confessing.)
Even if the girl has noticed If you are interested in you, don't act too hastily. You can contact her as a friend first, so that the girl can further understand more of your advantages, strengthen your attraction to her, and solidify her interest in you. In this way, the girl will slowly turn her good impression of you into love without knowing it. .
When the relationship between two people has accumulated to a certain level, the time will be mature. At this time, another round of confession can successfully confirm the relationship.
