In many people’s minds, once a girl has a partner, her pursuit is basically hopeless.
Xiaoyu’s love editor does not recommend that you chase a girl who has a crush. After all, poaching is very unethical, but if you really like this girl, , it has to be her, but it’s not impossible. So how should you chase a girl who has a crush?
1. Strengthen your own construction
If you Having overcome all obstacles, I am determined to pursue it. But you find that compared to your partner's boyfriend, your advantages are not obvious, and you even have many shortcomings, which will lead to a very low success rate for you.
You need to patiently build yourself up and improve your scores. Self-construction here is divided into long-term construction and short-term construction, starting with short-term construction. For example, it takes a long time for a person's economic situation, social status, and body shape to change. However, a person's image, emotional value, and skills in pursuing girls can change quickly within a few months.
You can quickly improve your life value and emotional value in a short period of time. For example, you can enrich your social and leisure life, have more topics to talk about, and show more samples to attract the attention of girls. You can also accumulate too many jokes that arouse girls' emotions and provide more emotional value during interactions.
2. Break through and heat up the relationship
After passing the basic matching level, you can enter the real relationship. It’s the pursuit stage. If you want the other person to be your girlfriend, you must elevate your relationship to a higher level, instead of staying at the stage of being just friends or even passers-by. At this point, the steps are actually the same as the normal steps to chase girls.
The prerequisite for warming up a relationship is that a girl is interested in you and has a good impression of you. The first step to make a girl like you is to show attraction. Showing attraction means that you need to show your attractive side to the woman. Then follow the warming process and heat up the relationship with the other party.
Note, if the other person is not interested in you, you are acting like a hooligan if you warm up the relationship! It will only arouse the disgust of women.
The process of warming up a relationship: strangers < ordinary friends < ambiguity < flirting < boyfriend and girlfriend.
3. Reduce the psychological pressure of girls
Because the girl already has a boyfriend, you and the other party will warm up the relationship. There is bound to be psychological pressure.
At this time, you need to bear the responsibility and pressure of pursuing girls on yourself, and don't let women bear the pressure. Never make her feel like an immoral, unfaithful woman.
For example, talk to her lessTalk less about your current boyfriend and less about evaluating women’s morals. Talk about something light-hearted and stress-free.
4. Provide without asking for
Out of secular instinct, most people are accustomed to asking for, not asking for supply. Just like listening to cross talk, ordinary people enjoy the laughter brought by cross talk actors to themselves, but few people are willing to bring joy to others. When it comes to getting along with women, you need to provide and demonstrate enough value that girls will be attracted to you.
What most people do is that they only want to gain favor from women, but are unwilling to provide value. For example, most men do not show their attractiveness, but try to gain favor from women by expressing their feelings. For example, most men seem to be nice to women, but in fact they are just trying to exchange the woman's favor, not truly providing.
Most people are eager to get the results and are not willing to do the process. When it comes to attracting a woman, you are the cause and she is the result. If you don’t offer and show, why should women be attracted to you?!
