"Why are you always indifferent to the girls you like? Why are you always rejected by the girls you like? I have already poured out my heart and soul to her, and she still has this attitude, what else does she want from me?" This is the question in the minds of many boys. complain.

Some people feel that they are sincere to a girl and are willing to do anything for her. The question is, does love only need these? If they only know sincerity and dedication, but use the wrong method to flirt with girls, Not only will it fail to attract girls, but it will only give the impression of lacking emotional intelligence and low value.

So what are the wrong ways to flirt with girls that will make girls extremely disgusted?

01 Wrong way to demonstrate value

Why do you fall in love with a girl?

Because she looks good, her smile is charming, her voice is beautiful, in short, it is inevitable It's because there is a place that makes you obsessed with it after seeing it.

In the same way, why should a girl look at you? Because you also have the value to make her eyes shine.

But some people do very poorly in this regard and do not understand how to correctly demonstrate their value to girls. Not to mention showing any useful value, but always showing low value intentionally or unintentionally.

Some brothers will feel aggrieved again at this time: "Don't I understand the value of showing off? I almost boast about myself in front of girls, and the layout of my circle of friends is also very high."

When it comes to this issue, many people really misunderstand the value of display. Dude, first of all, just because you brag about how awesome you are, doesn’t mean that girls really think you are awesome. Secondly, some people may look very tall, but they may not really be tall.

"There is no way. The house is too big. If I don't hire a live-in nanny, I don't have to go to work. I can do hygiene at home every day."

"Oh, you said that black Rolls-Royce doesn't look good. I just changed it to a silver one."

What is pretentiousness? This is pretentiousness. , the first impression you give is that it is very exaggerated, and a girl will only think that you are lying to her.

Some people think they are very high-class, but in fact, others look speechless. Not only will it not make people think you are handsome or powerful, but it will make your value plummet.

For example, the following methods are typical ways of displaying value that seem high-end but are actually very low-priced:

Selfies holding the steering wheel

< p> The classic earth-flavored display area exudes the fragrance of RMB and is full of the "heroism" of the nouveau riche.

Use photos of other handsome guys as avatars

Unless you are a celebrity, a girl’s first impression will be that this is you, and you won’t want to flirt with her.When she doesn't want to, a girl will look at the handsome guy in this photo and fantasize about what she looks like when she's with you. But one day she saw your real photo, and her sweet dream was shattered to pieces in an instant.

Photos of high-end hotel floor-to-ceiling windows, high-altitude restaurants and other places

Too fake! Nowadays, many places provide such posing services, and some are even just coffee shops. It’s not a real hotel. They put sheets and quilts on the bay window to pretend it’s a high-end hotel, and then rent a bathrobe for tens of dollars so you can have a nice meal. Many girls and Internet celebrities like to do this, so brothers, if boys also do this, then "well-informed" girls can tell at a glance that you are fake and deliberately pretending to be cool.

02 Self-impression

What is self-impression?

Self-motivation is a behavior that obtains illusory emotional satisfaction through unilateral dedication or fantasy. This kind of person likes to blindly "be nice to girls". Even though the girls are not touched by him at all and don't even give back at all, he still feels that his love is great and is intoxicated by his "affectionateness" and "specificity". "in.

Maybe you think there is nothing wrong with this. After all, the contributions are all voluntary, and the girls are not asked to repay. It seems really great.

But first of all, if a girl doesn’t respond to you, it means that she doesn’t like you. If you love her to the death, it’s either funny or a lot of pressure for her.

Secondly, this kind of spiritual satisfaction is not absolutely pure. It will continue to increase the emotional burden as the effort increases. It's just that at the beginning, your need for girls was too great, which paralyzed your emotional nerves, making you unable to feel pain, and mistakenly regarded it as enjoyment.

As the effort increases, sooner or later this emotional burden will overflow, and as time goes by, the sense of need will slow down. It fades slowly and you will wake up sooner or later.

In this way, even if a girl doesn’t feel disgusted because you force yourself to be nice to her, you will do irrational things due to emotional outbursts, damaging your image in the minds of girls.

Don’t impose what you think is good on girls, and don’t have too much inner drama.

Love, when there is only one word, it can be our own individual behavior.

But love is no longer a unilateral act on our part, but an act that requires two people to bear it together. The word "love" tightly links two people's love for each other, and builds a spiritual connection in each other's hearts.

In the pursuit of love, no one-sided self-impression can succeed.

03 Emotional Kidnapping

"I have done so much for you, but what I got in return is this sentence!"

"Oh, I'm so stupid. I thought that if I treat you so well, I would at least have a special status in your heart, but I didn't expect..."

Contrary to self-impression, some people treat girls Although he is kind in every way, he does not sincerely want to pay for her, but tries to force the girl to pay in order to get something in return from her.

For example, treat the girl to some food first. After a meal, he confidently asked her to date him. If the girl refused, she would say that she was cheating;

He would greet her every day, and then confess his feelings. If the girl refused, she would say that she was unfaithful;< /p>

I buy, buy, give, give, give gifts worth tens of thousands, and then ask the girl to book a room with me. If the girl refuses, I feel like all my money has been spent on a white-eyed wolf.

Oh my god, buddy, you have to pay for the meal, you have to give the gifts, and you have to offer your hospitality. Do girls have to pay for your behavior of rushing to get more?

The correct way to pursue love requires us to exchange value with girls and achieve balance and equality in giving.

But the correct value exchange is based on the premise that both parties have a good impression of each other and are willing to do so. When you pay first, it is best not to exceed the girl’s ability to reciprocate. If the girl is unwilling to pay for you, we must change the target or re-establish attraction.

For example. At this stage, girls can only accept holding hands with you, so you'd better not do anything for her that exceeds the level of the relationship. This way, girls can happily hold hands with you without any psychological burden. Only in this way can the relationship be healthy. Development.

If you don’t care about it, just kneel down and lick it, and then think that these things you do should be able to get a kiss from her. It’s her fault if the girl doesn’t give you this kiss, because she doesn’t know. Anyway, this kind of behavior is naked emotional kidnapping!

So when we chase girls, we must understand one truth: our dedication to girls is used to enhance the relationship, not to No need to exchange relationships!