In many people’s impressions, a sense of security has always been reserved for girls, but in fact, many times, boys also need a sense of security. Recently, I saw a message from a male friend in the background. He said that he had experienced I lived a very insecure relationship.

It wasn’t until I met my current girlfriend that the insecurity of being abandoned at any time was slowly cured.

1: Distance and money in front of true love

My ex and I live in different places. When we were in school, we It's a little closer. I go to see her every weekend. I travel back and forth for a day, so I only have one day with her.

Even though I was a little tired and miserable at that time, I was still very happy as long as I saw her.

Later, after graduation and working, she returned to her hometown and I stayed in school. The distance became even further. They say true love can defeat distance.

Only when you are truly in it, you will know that to overcome distance, in addition to true love, you must also have money.

Two: A rift will separate two people into two halves

That day we had a very unhappy time because of the issue of when to get married.

I later apologized and she said it was okay, but the atmosphere between us was obviously different. In order to ease the relationship, I decided to go find her that weekend.

I bought the earliest ticket, got off the plane and went straight to her residence. I knocked on the door for half an hour and made 13 calls, but no one answered.

The neighbor next door who heard the sound said that she had moved away a week ago. When I finally found her at noon, she confessed.

Three: Long-distance relationships increase the need for security

She has long since not wanted to be in a long-distance relationship, and We started going on a blind date under the arrangement of my parents, and I asked her why she didn't tell me about her move.

She replied to me: "Is it useful to tell you? Can you put down your work and come over to help me?"

At that moment, I felt that my relationship was like a floating cloud. I could still see it, but when the wind blew, it disappeared.

After experiencing the previous period Regarding feelings, I slowly realized that the sense of security I wanted was probably that even if we were not in the same place, I knew that I would be able to find her wherever I went.

So when I met my current girlfriend, I always kept calling her. She was not impatient at all. Even if we had a quarrel, she never blocked me. She made me feel that as soon as I reached out, , she would hug me.

Four: Know how to give boys a sense of security

In fact, it seems that boys and girls want safety feel,In fact, they are very similar.

I am also afraid of being abandoned, and I am also worried because the other party does not answer the phone. However, boys rarely use words and actions to express their "needs and uneasiness", and most of the time they will pretend to be strong. Keep the uneasiness in your heart.

Therefore, in a relationship, don’t think of your boyfriend as a superman who is omnipotent and can swallow any grievance. He will also be uneasy and sad. Maybe some boys will treat this kind of "Insecurity" becomes the driving force for your own progress, and you use your own excellence to relieve the anxiety in love.

But in many cases, this "insecurity" will undermine a boy's confidence little by little, making him feel that you will leave at any time, constantly consuming the love between you.

If you truly love someone, you will never bear to see them suffer in a relationship. This is true for boys, and this is true for girls.