If a relationship wants to last, the most important thing is to be honest. Once lies are included, the relationship will not last long. But many times, lies are not entirely harmful. On the contrary, white lies are meant to avoid more harm.
1. Memories of ex, selective forgetting
Ex has always been a taboo topic. It’s also a topic that many people don’t want to mention.
Some people either talk endlessly or remain silent when faced with the topic of their ex.
Regarding your ex, whether you are unwilling or unwilling to accept it, there is no need to say too many words in front of your current partner.
The best way to deal with your ex is not to slander, accuse or complain. I don’t regret meeting you, nor do I regret leaving you.
When your current partner asks you about your ex, you don’t have to tell the truth truthfully, even if you still remember some details.
When a person tells the story of himself and his ex in an understatement and uses a white lie to describe it selectively, this is not deception, but cleverness.
Every detailed confession strengthens memories, which not only shows the depth of this relationship, but also another kind of harm to the current one.
If a person conceals or forgets something about his ex, it’s not because he is bad, but because he loves his current wife from the bottom of his heart.
2. The lover’s dedication is always the first to be praised
The most beautiful language in the world comes from Lovers praise.
Everyone likes to be praised and appreciated by others.
"The Five Love Languages" says that words of affirmation and praise are the preservatives of intimate relationships.
When faced with your lover’s dedication and hard work, don’t be stingy with your praise.
A boy who has never cooked starts to wash his hands and make soup. Even if he does not do well, it still represents a sincere attitude. Women should also use white lies to praise him and encourage him.
A boy who has never done housework begins to clean up housework for the first time. Even if he does not do well and has many flaws, women must praise him with positive words.
Although some compliments may not be true or seem fake, these white lies will enhance the relationship between you.
I have read this sentence:
"The purpose of love is not to get what you want, but to do something for the well-being of the person you love."
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3. Willing to change for the other person
When two people are together, they are constantly grinding togetherIn the process of cooperation and change, it is never possible to just allow the other party to compromise all the time.
Some people are obviously very busy at work, but they still take time out of their busy schedule in order to accompany the people they like.
Some people obviously don’t like spicy food, so in order to eat with each other, they start to change their taste.
This kind of change is not very vigorous or grand, but it happens that these seemingly insignificant things actually reflect a person's love for you.
The best love is not being forced to become someone you don’t like, but being willing to become a better person for the other person.
Sometimes, don’t just look at the act of lying, but look at the real purpose behind the lie.
Any behavior that separates from actions to judge lies is a kind of bias.
I hope you can meet a lover who can understand what you want to say and what you want to say, but also understand what you mean.
