If you add a new girl on WeChat and want to chat with her and become interested in you, the first thing we need to do is break the ice. An opening line that hooks her will do the trick.
Therefore, if you want to have an opening that can attract her, then this opening must have these characteristics:
Short and clear (comfortable), eye-catching (interesting) , valuable), not forcing girls (comfortable, providing value), and the opening remarks must be open!
The importance of being brief and clear
Most excellent openings are basically about 10 words!
The shorter and clearer the opening, the more likely girls will be after reading it. The easier it is to grasp the key points of our words, the clearer her thinking will be when replying. This means that doing this can make it easier for a girl to reply to us and make her more willing to reply to us. This can effectively increase the chance of a girl replying to us.
Another very important point is that too many words will increase the reader’s mental consumption. If you start with a long paragraph, even if there is only one central idea, girls will read more. The words consume more of her mental energy. Using more brain power means losing patience more easily.
Don’t underestimate this detail. The patience of strangers is definitely not as high as you think, especially when girls face strange boys. If girls had such a high degree of patience and initiative towards boys, it would not be the case in the world where men chase women, but rather women chasing men.
Therefore, many girls will choose to ignore a too-long opening statement, or give you a speechless or confused expression.
How is it considered long? Generally speaking, if it exceeds 20 words and is divided into 3 paragraphs or more, it is considered long!
Of course, it is not that long sentences cannot be used as opening remarks, but then It requires a strong enough sense of humor to control it, and to be able to improvise a "joke" that can directly catch the girl's attention based on the girl's nickname, photo, friend circle information, etc. If the humor is not enough, the possibility of overturning is very high. To be on the safe side, it is easier to control with a short opening, which is also in line with the concept of "light".
The importance of eye-catching
Can the opening statement catch the girl's attention? Eyeballs, it’s like a new snack shop opened downstairs. When we go to buy it for the first time, we will definitely care about whether it is delicious. If it is delicious, we will continue to buy from this store in the future. If it is not delicious, we will buy it again in the future. I won't buy from this store either.
If a new girl sees that your opening remarks are useless, then why should you?Do you expect her to eat your dish?
So don’t always use the words “Hello, beauty”, “Hello” and “You are so beautiful” as your opening remarks!
Do There are many ways to catch a girl's attention.
We can first observe the girl’s signature, display surface and other places where information can be seen, and then extract the information and then formulate the corresponding opening remarks.
You can pretend to be surprised and arouse girls' curiosity: "Hey, there are XX people here?"
Or you can use humor to make girls feel funny and fun: "Miss The boyfriend you ordered is here.”
If you really can’t find anyone valuable from the girl, you can also use the accidental rule. Just use emoticons, jokes, etc. to break the ice. Because there is no rule to follow, it is called the law of accident. There is no need to express anything, it just needs to be fun and interesting!
For example: "Open the door , the gangsters are coming!” (with a smirking emoticon)
We can also formulate an opening statement based on our characteristics, break the ice and promote ourselves at the same time: “Here comes your warm-hearted little brother. ”
The importance of keeping girls from feeling forced
Yes Is a coercive opening statement meant to make a girl feel irritable right from the start, making her feel that what you say is embarrassing?
For example:
"What is your name?" (Who are you, why should I tell you?)
"Where is the beauty from?"( What do you want to do?)
"What kind of boy do you like?" (It's none of your business?)
"Do you want to date?" (When I date you... you can't use bad words. )
These are typical opening remarks with a sense of coercion, and their characteristic is that they demand value from girls. The problem is, we don’t even know each other, so why should we let you ask for it?
In fact, many people will make this mistake. They don’t understand the girl they just added and don’t know what to say. Or if you can’t wait to know the girl’s information, you can directly ask the girl questions.
The opening statement must not be demanding!
The importance of openness
For example, we see a girl’s dating declaration stating that she hopes to find a local boyfriend and get married. OK, then let’s use this to formulate an opening statement, but now there are Two sets of opening remarks:
"Miss, I saw your signature. Do you want to find a local boyfriend?"
"Miss, the boyfriend you ordered has arrived.!"
Which sentence do you think is better?
We can completely predict the girl's answer to the first sentence: "Yeah. ""yes. "With this kind of opening statement, the girl's answer has been limited. The girl's answer has been limited. If the boy can answer the question, it is almost impossible to escape the box. It is nothing more than: See if I can do it, or introduce myself. , indicating application.
What to do next? After the boy introduces himself, the girl will subconsciously consider whether the boy’s qualifications meet what she wants, and think it’s okay. , OK, let’s find out. Feel there is a gap between you and your ideal? Bye bye to you directly!
Originally, you could have established attraction first, letting girls slowly develop feelings for you, and then develop further. But now? It’s like a job interview, maybe I got screwed at the first level.
