The most important thing when chasing girls is chatting, but some boys are naturally stupid and unsociable. They often speak incoherently when facing girls they like, and there is no way to make girls like them. Today, the editor will share with you a set of methods to train your stupid mouth, so that you can become a person who can talk and flirt.
1. Exchange questioning method
People who are stupid talk when chatting with girls , often try to continue the topic by asking questions. Although asking questions is not impossible, but think about it, how can you attract someone who you don’t even know about his personality, work, hobbies, tastes, three views, etc.? And if you blindly ask the other party questions, the other party may feel that it is unfair. Why is she blindly sharing and you are unmoved? The correct way is to share your own information first and then ask the girl questions. For example:
"My hobbies are reading, playing ball, and musical instruments. What about you?" In this way, because we contribute our own value first and then ask the other party, the other party will tell us her information. (Simple summary: Talk about yourself first, then ask others)
In this way, the other party can feel your trust in her, and more importantly, you have provided value first. In this way, not only can your chat continue smoothly, but both parties will not feel any pressure, making the chat atmosphere more relaxed.
2. Continue the topic
People who are stupid don’t actually need to think about the following points when chatting. What topic? You don’t want to think about whether the other person likes this topic. All you need to think about is how to continue the following topic.
3. Digging for keywords
If you really can’t find how to continue the current topic, then you can dig for keywords from the other party’s words. This keyword It can be the other party's current status, what they are doing, hobbies, favorite celebrities, etc., and then use keywords to cater to her tastes and make the chat smoother.
4. Establish a sense of comfort in chatting
No matter if you are stupid or not, as long as you can chat with girls, A comfortable feeling, even if you are just a listener, then your chat can go on smoothly. When chatting becomes the norm, it will become natural for her to take the initiative to contact you. On the contrary, if the comfort level is not perfect, even if she wants to send you a WeChat message, she will consider whether it will be too abrupt.
Example A.
Female: Where are you from?
Male: I am yours. (Too abrupt)
Example B.
Male: You are so perfect, but you have a flaw (foreshadowing in advance)
Female: What are the shortcomings
Male: My shortcomings
In fact, many boys do not It's not that I'm stupid, I just have a bit of social phobia. Many times, I have learned many ways to chat, but I find that I am still stupid. So instead of thinking about how to chat, it is better to overcome your inner fear first. Whether it is social software or chatting, you have to be bolder, overcome your inner conflicts, and don't be so excited that you can't speak when you see a beautiful woman. Then improve your emotional intelligence, show your value in life, and let girls take the initiative to become interested in you.
