It is said that couples or couples who do not have the same three views will not stay together for a long time. We often hear about the incompatibility of the three views in life, but in what aspects does the incompatibility of the three views manifest specifically? Let me analyze for you what are the specific manifestations of the disagreement between husband and wife? Check with yourself to see if there are any differences in your views, and see if you want to continue the marriage.
1. Disagreement or understanding
If a couple has different opinions about the same thing, and one person wants to travel to Sanya, he feels The scenery there is pleasant, and you can watch the sea on the beach, but another person wants to go to a summer resort to escape the summer heat. He feels that it is so hot in summer that he should find a cool place to cool off. At this time, the two parties with different views may denigrate each other's plan, hoping that the other party will agree with their point of view. Couples who truly have the same three views talk about everything every day and have some different ideas. Although they don't agree with each other, they can understand each other's views and take a step back to resolve conflicts and problems between them. Couples who share the same views do not agree but understand, and there is no contradiction between the two. They will also have some different ideas, but both parties can understand why the other party has such views and express understanding. Instead of insisting on having your own way, blame the other party for not understanding you.
2. Inconsistency in bottom-line principles
Whether they are husband and wife or lovers, when it comes to matters involving the bottom line, two There must be consistency between them. For example, domestic violence, cheating, gambling, drug abuse... If one of the spouses does not take these issues of principle seriously, it means that he or she may violate the bottom line and principles. And some mistakes will never be returned to once they are made. Not going.
Mr. Zhou Zhou: I had a girlfriend when I just graduated. At that time, everyone was worried about finding a job. After working hard for a long time, the results were not satisfactory. One day we suddenly talked about potential employment. The topic of rules.
Female: I would accept it if I could get a formal job.
Me: Do you really think so?
Female: Yes, it’s very cost-effective to be able to change jobs after dedicating one time.
Me: (stared at her for a while without speaking)
From that moment on, I knew that a relationship with incompatible views would definitely not last, and one day I found out that she and The ambiguous chat records of the leader, of course, they broke up.
The specific manifestation of the incompatibility between husband and wife is that they cannot communicate. Everyone has his own theory of three views. Who can Don't obey anyone. In fact, it’s normal for us to have different views on the same thing. The key lies in whether you can negotiate and whether your views violate the other person’s bottom line and principles. Otherwise, no matter how loving a couple is, they will also have different opinions because of their three views. Breaking up due to disagreement.
