If a relationship wants to last for a long time, it needs to be managed carefully. Only by maintaining a sense of expectation and freshness on both sides can both parties not get bored. So how should we manage a relationship correctly?
1. Reasonable use of the deficit value of effort and reward
In the love stories we have read, People who have no self and give blindly are often very passive.
On the day they are abandoned, they usually say: "I am so good to her and satisfy her with everything, why does she treat me like this?"
The biggest problem in relationships The tragedy is to give without expecting anything in return.
You think you can tie up a woman’s heart by giving, but in fact this is your biggest mistake.
Everyone hopes that their efforts and rewards are equal, or even that the rewards are higher than their efforts. Therefore, you must learn to create psychological gaps and state fluctuations, and create targeted surprises and disappointments.
For example:
She wants to ask you for a gift. You first say that you don’t have so much money recently and you won’t buy it for her, and then after a while you give her a gift unexpectedly. surprise.
What you have to remember is to find a balance to make her feel that you don't seem to care about her that much, but you also seem to love her and can't live without her.
You are not always meeting her demands, but you know how to say no, and then take the initiative in your own hands.
2. Give women enough sense of security
The most important thing for a woman to choose to be with a man is Security, security includes material and spiritual.
First of all, material security is the most important, and it is also the basis for ensuring your normal life.
"Evolutionary Psychology" mentioned that in the most primitive times of ancient times, men who could get more food were more favored and liked by women. Because women have to live and raise children, when choosing a mate, they first choose a man who can support them.
Human beings have evolved to this day. When choosing a mate, although the influence of materials is slowly fading, it is still an indispensable criterion.
To make a woman unable to live without you, the most basic thing is that you have to ensure that she will not live in a stable place or become poor when she is with you. If you can't even guarantee your own life, how can a woman be willing to be with you?
The second is spirit. It’s trust, understanding, sincerity, etc. Now what makes a woman completely devoted to you is that you can give her a sense of spiritual satisfaction.
In short, materiality determines whether your relationship is strong, and spirit determines whether you can go further.
3. Make life passionate
When two people are in love, it is normal for the relationship to go from sweet to dull. And 80% of the time when two people are in love, It is a very ordinary and ordinary state, and only 20% of the time is wonderful.
It is this 20% of wonderful and interesting life that keeps your love moving forward.
So, what can motivate a woman to stay with you is to feel that there is hope for the future.
What is hope? It is to believe that good things will happen in the future.
In "Intimacy." "Relationship" mentioned that perfect love requires three things: passion, intimacy, and commitment.
Passion is similar to hope, that is, we always make a difference in ordinary life. Surprise.
For example:
You usually eat home-cooked meals at home, which is nothing special. On weekends or on the day when your salary is paid, go out for a sumptuous meal.
On Valentine’s Day or the other person’s birthday, prepare a thoughtful gift for her and surprise her.
