College is a period of life full of passion and challenges, and falling in love is even more of it. However, some college students often have quarrels during their relationship, which brings troubles to their relationship. So, how should college students handle it when they often quarrel when they are in a relationship? Several aspects will be discussed below.
1. Communication is the key
Communication is the basis for solving problems. When you have an argument, first calm down, find a suitable time and place, sit down and have a good talk. During the communication process, you should pay attention to the following points:
First, listen to the other party's point of view. Don't interrupt the other person, and listen patiently to the other person's opinions and ideas. Respect the other person's point of view and try to understand the other person's position.
Secondly, express your feelings. Use an "I" tone to express your feelings and needs and avoid using accusatory language. For example, "I feel sad/disappointed/dissatisfied" instead of "You always..." This avoids causing the other person to react aggressively.
Finally, find shared solutions. In communication, we should actively look for ways to solve problems. Both parties can discuss and work out solutions together to achieve a win-win outcome.
2. Accept and respect each other
In a love relationship, it is very important to accept and respect each other. When you have an argument, don't try to change the other person or impose your opinions on the other person. Instead, learn to accept the other person's perspective and personality, and respect the other person's feelings.
Everyone has their own unique way of thinking and values, which cannot be changed. Therefore, when dealing with arguments, learn to see the problem from the other person's perspective and try to understand the other person's position. Only by accepting and respecting each other can a healthy and stable love relationship be established.
3. Seek help from a third party
If you often have quarrels but cannot solve the problem on your own, you may consider seeking help from a third party. The third party can be a trusted friend, family member or professional counselor.
When communicating with a third party, you should frankly express your troubles and problems and listen to the other party's suggestions. A third party can look at the problem from an objective perspective and give neutral opinions and guidance. With the help of a third party, you can better understand each other and find solutions to problems.
4. Find common interests
In addition to solving problems, finding common interests is also one of the effective ways to alleviate quarrels. When you have an argument, try doing something you enjoy together, such as going to the movies, going for a walk, or joining a club.
Through activities of common interest, mutual understanding and affection can be enhanced. At the same time, this can alsoDivert your attention and reduce the chance of a fight. Building a deeper relationship based on common interests can help improve the quality of your relationship.
5. Self-reflection and growth
Finally, when you often quarrel, you should not only pay attention to the other party's problems, but also reflect on whether there are areas that need improvement in yourself. Everyone has their shortcomings, and a relationship is a process of mutual growth and improvement.
Through self-reflection, you can discover your own problems and work hard to correct them. For example, whether you are often impulsive, impatient, or not good at expressing emotions, etc. Only through continuous growth and improvement can we build a healthier and more stable love relationship.
When college students often quarrel when they are in love, they should focus on communication, acceptance and respect of each other, seek help from a third party, find common interests, and conduct self-reflection and growth. Through the use of these methods, quarrels can be effectively resolved and a more stable and healthy love relationship can be established.
