The reason why a boy is called a straight man by girls is because he lacks the ability to empathize with others. When girls need emotional comfort, such boys often only talk to girls in a logical way. But warm men are different. They know how to express their understanding and respond to girls’ emotions. Therefore, warm men are a type of boy that is very popular with girls. So how do you become a warm man and get rid of the label of straight man?
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1. Ask more open-ended questions when chatting

Asking girls questions during chat can help you better understand girls. , but if he only keeps asking, then such a boy will be a straight man in the eyes of girls. If you want to be a warm man, you need to ask more open-ended questions when chatting.

Open-ended questions can be understood as short-answer questions, while closed-ended questions can be understood as multiple-choice or true-false questions.

We can capture a lot of information from the answers to open-ended questions. This information can help us interact better with each other, gain a deeper understanding of each other’s feelings and thoughts, and thus be able to empathize accurately. .

For example, when you meet, someone asks you "Have you eaten?" This is a closed question.

There are only two answers: eating or not eating.

If you say you have eaten and he then asks, "What did you eat today?"

This is an open-ended question. The answers will be rich and you will be better able to chat with girls. to arouse their emotions.

2. Don’t make hasty judgments

There is another reason why many boys are called straight men. He has a straightforward personality and always likes to make hasty judgments when encountering problems.

In fact, when many conflicts occur, you will find that there are always a lot of subjective judgments in those offensive words.

For example:

“You always...”

“You never...”

“I still Don’t you know me? You are just a... person.”

In fact, every time we say such words, we are consuming each other's feelings. Therefore, if we want to be a warm man, we should try to avoid saying such words.

When a girl quarrels, all she wants is for the other party to satisfy her emotional value. At this time, instead of arguing, it is better to express your needs directly.

And the more rational and logical the person you face, the clearer you will be.

Because many boys with relatively direct brain circuits have relatively weak ability to empathize. It should be noted that when making demands, do not use imperative sentences, but use transitions such as "If you can...I will..." to understand the sentence structure. At the same time, the tone becomes moreBe gentle, and even act coquettishly at times to create contrast and cuteness, which will make the other party accept your suggestions.

For example:

If you are always angry because the other person comes home late, you can say this;

“Dear, if you could come back early "Home, then I will be very happy, but I also understand that you are quite busy, but I am just a little sad that I can't wait for you to have dinner together recently."

You see, this way can not only make her feel your loss, but also express your understanding of her, and also make her fully understand your needs. This is what a warm man should do. Some behavior.

3. Behavioral imitation

French philosopher Helvetius Helvetius famously said: "Man is a function of his environment. product". Regardless of whether we are boys or girls, many of our behaviors and words are based on the influence of certain factors, which may be family environment, education level, and living habits.

Therefore, if you want to completely get rid of the straight man label and become a warm man, you might as well try to understand more about the other person's life.

Go to eat the food the other person likes to eat, listen to the songs the other person likes to listen to, and even go to the place where the other person grew up.

Perhaps, you can also understand why your girlfriend doesn’t like spicy food, because her family has a light diet. Why are elders said to be more tolerant? It’s because they have richer life experiences and have eaten more salt than we have walked.

Therefore, they can know what our age has experienced, what we worry about, and what we pursue.