The relationship between men and women is actually a game about reproduction. In addition to intimate relationships, there are also some quite cruel competitions between the sexes. Of course, this is off topic and will not be mentioned for now. Then why do some boys always meet scumbags when chasing girls?
1. Why do you always meet bad girls
The first thing to realize is that a person’s personality and behavior determine the type of people they attract.
For example, a otaku will most likely attract fujoshi girls who often play games at home. A boy with a bold personality who often drinks and parties will naturally attract girls who like to drink and party.
Therefore, some people are always easy to attract scumbags, such as vanity, lack of self-confidence, indecisiveness, simple and naive views on love, no ability to judge right and wrong, uncleanness, etc.
Let’s talk about a type of person who is indecisive and doesn’t know how to say no.
When many boys chase girls, they clearly know that the other party doesn’t like them, but they still insist on pursuing them, and they don’t even refuse any of the other party’s requests. As a result, they become obsessed with them because of their persistence. Became that girl's backup.
2. How to avoid meeting a scumbag
If unfortunately you become a spare tire, please remember, To stop losses in time is not only to learn to reject the other party, but also to be good at letting go after suffering losses. Some people find that they have suffered a loss, are unwilling to swallow this breath, and try to regain their position.
But what’s the point of doing this? Even if you finally get revenge on the other party, you can’t get back all the time, energy and even reputation you wasted. A war that hurts the enemy a thousand times and loses a thousand to yourself is not worth it.
Deciding to cut off the relationship is indeed a loss from the immediate perspective, but the reward is long-lasting peace from now on.
The reason why many boys can’t escape the control of scumbag girls is because they are unwilling to give in. For example, if you spend 68 yuan to buy a movie ticket and watch it for 10 minutes, you will find that it is a bad movie.
Some people think that since they have already bought everything, it is not worthwhile to leave now, so they continue to read, and in the end they endure a mental torture in vain, and waste an hour or two of their time.
In fact, after you buy the ticket, you have already invested in this movie whether you watch it or not. After you find out that it is a bad movie, the best way to stop losses is not to watch it, which not only avoids being a bad movie Mental torture and a chance to watch a really interesting movie.
Don’t do things that will cause harm to yourself. This is one of the best ways to protect yourself. Although there is no guarantee that you are invulnerable, at least there is no basis for being attacked. A gentleman does not stand behind a dangerous wall. This is what the ancients have told us long ago.reason.
One of the major misconceptions in life is "I can fight back." There are always people who, after meeting a scumbag man and scumbag woman in their relationship, think that they can either influence the other person to turn back, or they can be among the thousands of flowers. Ye Buzhen, such people are often eaten up in the end and no scraps are left.
People with common sense know that you should not quarrel with others when they are drunk, and do not go into the river if you cannot swim. When you realize that the character of the other person is not very good, you should stay away decisively instead of taking chances and saying, "I'll be fine if I'm careful" or "I have nothing to gain anyway."
Learning to actively stay away from sources of danger is the best way to protect yourself.
Knowing clearly that there are tigers in the mountains, you will go to the tiger mountains. Doing it only when you have the ability to defeat the tigers is called bravery. Doing it if you don't have the ability is called blindness.
And thinking that you are capable when you clearly have no ability is called stupidity.
