Question:

Hello, tutor, once the girl I was chasing took the initiative to tell me that she would have to get off work very late.

Because we were on the way, I asked her if she wanted me to send her off, but she actually refused. Then in the evening I asked her again and she said no again.

After that, I deliberately wanted to meet her by chance when she was leaving get off work. When I met her, we were at a traffic light intersection together. She saw me and took the initiative to say hello to me. She also said to go this way, it is closer. I was stunned for 2 seconds. After the light turned green, she turned to look at me and then walked away. I stupidly didn't chase after her.

Is she interested in me? Also, when I ask her out, she always asks me to bring a friend. I tell her that my friend is busy and has no time, but she just declines. accepted my invitation.

Answer:

Hello buddy, first of all, I noticed that you have a relatively typical The problem with chasing girls is "keep asking".

Look, a girl says to you: "I have to get off work very late tonight." At this time, you ask her if you want to see her off; then in the evening, you ask again; and then you ask her out Sometimes, she even has to ask her about her friends.

When you are chasing her, you have to ask the girl about basically everything you do. In other words, it actually means that you must give you a positive answer from the girl before you dare to do it.

And this is a typical sign of seeking approval from girls and not being confident.

Put yourself in someone else’s shoes and think about it. When you ask a girl, “Do you want me to take you back?”, how will the girl respond?

Could it be that a girl would say, “Yes! Right away!” Immediately!?"

Definitely impossible, girls are generally more reserved. The instructor has also said before that when we hold a girl's hand, we must not ask "Can I hold your hand?" because once you ask, the girl will reject you. The reason why she refused was due to your lack of confidence and the inherent reserve of girls.

What is the correct approach?

Don't ask, just send her back.

Don’t ask, just hold the girl’s hand.

Why? Because only when you do it and take action can you know whether a girl really rejects you. If a girl rejects you once, twice, or three times through our actions and is blocked, then you know the girl refuses.

And if you don’t take action, but instead “seek recognition and affirmation” before each action, you will let many opportunities and windows run away. Gradually, a girl will feel that you don't understand her or women, so she will lose interest in you.

Then, the instructor will respond to your main questions. You said: "Is this girl showing that she is interested in me?"

My answer is: She is.

Why is it said to be interesting? There are two details

The first detail:

Although a girl says goodbye, please don’t, and although she won’t let you see her off, when you meet her at a red street light intersection, she will take the initiative to say hello to you and tell you to go this way. , it’s closer here. This time is interesting for you.

What is the subtext of the girl’s words? She wants you to give her away. What you did before was to seek her approval and ask her "do you want to give it to you", so the girl refused.

When many boys see this, they will think, isn’t this a girl’s problem? Or think: If you want me to give it to you, just agree to it, or tell me that it’s not good?

Of course it’s not good. , Girls know from a young age that as girls, if they are too proactive, they will not be cherished and others will think that they are very slutty! So we will find that in the process of chasing girls, girls generally do not behave particularly proactively. Even when girls are interested in us, they won't take the initiative.

Men and women are completely different in expressing their liking:

It is "explicit" for us boys to like girls, that is, when we like a girl, Generally speaking, it is about giving gifts and directly expressing concern; but girls are different. When a girl likes a boy, it is "hidden". For example, in front of the boy she likes, she will get closer, lift her hair, and There are some special moves that are hidden and require men who understand women to discover them.

Therefore, the key point still lies in how we do it, in the practice, and in some details in the process of chasing girls.

The second detail:

After the green light, the girl turns around and glances at you.

What is the subconscious mind behind this behavior of a girl? She subconsciously thinks that you will follow her and you will go with her. But you didn't do that. You didn't respond to her, nor did you follow her. You just stood there stupidly like a passerby.

From these two details, the instructor can tell that you don’t seem to be able to understand the signals given by the girl and her implication. In the same way, a girl can actually tell, or she can feel this, and then the girl may feel that you are a bit dull and that you don’t understand her at all, and she will be very anxious and angry. If this happens often, even if the girl is right If you are interesting, then her patience will be slowly worn away by you.

Therefore, the instructor’s answer to your question “Are girls"I'm interested in you", the answer is yes.

Then you must be thinking, how do I change, how do I make a girl interested in you again?

In fact, it's also very interesting. Simple, first don't ask her again next time, don't keep asking her. You can ask her directly and send her directly.

For example: if she says she wants to bring friends when you ask her out, just do it. Just agree first, and then whether your friend comes or not, you don’t have to ask her or tell her. Instead, on the day of the date, after the appointment is made, you can say:

"My friend just Call me and say you have something to do and you won’t be able to come.”

That’s fine. Because when you date a girl, she says she wants to bring friends. In fact, many times she doesn’t feel safe enough, so she says this. . And we only need to give her this level of security, just to fill it up.

In addition, the girl has already come out at this time, so she will not leave directly, and the date will be over.

Then during the dating process, you only need to follow our dating steps and the techniques shared by our instructors to re-establish attraction, step by step, and then girls will also be interested in you again. Interested in you