The so-called licking dogs are those poor people who choose to be humble for love. In fact, it is right to be affectionate, but it is definitely wrong to actively choose to be humble and willing to give unconditionally for the sake of love. It is difficult to win the favor of girls.

Every day I say good morning and good night, I read the weather forecast to remind me to put on more clothes, dozens of warm and caring words of love are all gone, and when I receive a thank you from the goddess, I hold my phone and have fun for a long time. .

Because I was reluctant to give in, I emptied myself until I was physically and mentally exhausted and no longer dared to love.

1. Choose to be humble for love

There is a saying in a novel called the seven sufferings of life, among which Not getting what you want is one of the seven sufferings. This is also the pain we modern people often encounter when facing love. This is also the main source of dog lickers giving up their self-esteem. The girl you like is what the lickers most want but can't get.

But I often find that kneeling and licking is not just about pursuit. Even if the licking dog pursues a girl, he will still kneel and lick her. Later I understood that this type of brothers tend to lower their posture habitually when facing the girl they like, and cannot show their ambition and dignity as men.

Originally, the two of them got along as equals, but the licking dog insisted on making the girl a god. He really wanted to kowtow to her morning and night. Speak every word to the goddess cautiously, tell the goddess all your love and likes, and would rather eat instant noodles for a week than choose a Christmas gift for the goddess. Even if the relationship is confirmed, you will still be afraid of the other person leaving. It's like walking on thin ice.

For people who have let go of their self-esteem, there is no lower limit, and the more they give, the more they will be touched by themselves. In the end, I was only moved by myself, and I was still left with a skin that was physically and mentally tired.

2. Kneeling and licking is because it is full of fantasy

Do men who kneel and lick know that this is wrong? ?He understands it very well, but he just can't make up his mind to completely give up this fruitless relationship.

When their efforts are in vain or all they receive is indifference from the goddess, they will also feel sad and painful. So I made up my mind to never chase her like this again, but because the girl I liked posted on Moments or had a slightly better attitude toward him, I threw all my previous resolutions behind me and continued on the road of kneeling.

Even a little bit of comfort given by the goddess because she pities you and cannot bear to see you so humble, can become a ray of hope in the life of a licking dog. There is really a complex of contradictions in their hearts. On the one hand, they want to give up completely, but on the other hand, they are reluctant to give up for such a long time. They imagine that their efforts will eventually be rewarded and that persistence will lead to success.

But this is just a fantasy, but this fantasy is like a moth to a flame. Does it hurt? It hurts; can you not hit the flame? No!

Even though he has become a loser in the relationship, he still refuses to give up even though he is not even a spare tire for a goddess. Just like a gambler who loses his mind, he always fantasizes about getting his money back next time, but he gets deeper and deeper into it.

3. How to stop being a dog licker

Regarding how to solve this situation, there are actually many ways . The best way is to divert your attention from the goddess for the previous twenty-four hours to somewhere else. Such as work, such as eating, drinking and having fun. But don't drink, lest you lose control of yourself and call the goddess after drinking too much.

The best way is to work. After all, making money is the first priority for us gentlemen. Set a small goal for yourself first, such as earning 100 million from him first.

Then there are some attitudes and principles. In fact, everyone knows these things, but it is really difficult for brothers who are used to kneeling and licking to persist. I understand this, it’s really hard to change habits.

Then we will do the opposite and develop a habit. For example, I can watch the goddess’s updates, but I can only watch them once a day; I can take the initiative to chat with the goddess, but if the goddess doesn’t respond well, I will never open the topic again; if the goddess replies to my message, I don’t reply immediately, but wait for about ten minutes before replying. . If you maintain this habit, you will slowly find that you no longer desire the goddess so much.

What should we do with the rest of the time? Of course it’s not holding the phone and waiting for the goddess to reply! What we have to do is to improve ourselves. After working hard to make money, of course we must spend money reasonably. The first thing is to read Hemingway's books and buy a set of them. Feel the attitude of tough guys in Hemingway, and the masculinity of your own man will come out. Then find a hobby to develop, play the piano and keep fit. Enrich yourself and the natural goddess will be dispensable in your life.

We must know that we are born to live a more exciting version of ourselves, not to be humble simply for a certain person. Isn’t it a better choice to create a more perfect self and face more graceful girls?