Chasing a girl and confessing her love is never a trumpet to sound your pursuit, but a ritual that creates attraction and then makes a commitment. Confession is not the first step for two people to establish a relationship. Instead, they gradually develop feelings as they continue to get along and communicate with each other. At the same time, they have more and more emotional interactions with each other, until their relationship behavior approaches that of a couple, and then they take the initiative to express their feelings. This This is the most cost-effective way to pursue it. So how do you chase a girl without confessing your feelings?
How do you chase a girl without confessing your feelings?
1. Shape your own positive attraction
When people face a confession from a stranger of the opposite sex, they instinctively There will be a kind of "beautiful psychology" in the world, so people are more willing to accept each other's better confessions from the opposite sex.
The most intuitive manifestation of excellence in the relationship between the sexes is attraction.
The first thing you have to do is to make her notice you and develop a good impression of your existence. Also, you need to have a certain amount of leverage to interact with the other person, so that the other person feels that your way of showing kindness is not just a simple way of showing kindness. Instead of kneeling, licking and giving, you constantly attract and guide the other person to be willing to upgrade their relationship with you.
In terms of external appearance, girls can like someone who is not handsome, but they will never tolerate ugliness. The ugliness here does not refer to a boy's innate genes, but to the self-shaping and control of his acquired image.
So at least make it neat, clean, and comfortable, so that girls can at least not reject you from a visual perspective.
A boy’s first visual impression often determines a girl’s initial favorable impression of you. If you give a girl the first impression of being sloppy and immodest, then it is very likely that the girl will treat you immediately. Putting you on the blacklist of love, no matter how hard you try in the future, it will not help.
The outside determines whether a girl can have a good impression of you, and your inner self often determines how strongly a girl can have a good impression of you. This is what we call an "interesting soul." .
If you want a girl to have a long-term crush on you, you must have at least one trait that attracts her besides appearance.
Why do girls say “finding someone who understands you to fall in love with” every day, but do those who understand her really understand her?
In fact, those who really understand girls People who are more likely to have strong empathy abilities. So before pursuing a girl, try to understand the girl first. Start as a friend, quietly walk into and integrate into the girl's life, and understand the girl's habits, interests and little thoughts.
When you understand the girl’s psychological trends well enough, she will naturally develop a “feeling of tacit understanding with you.”
At the same time, you can do in-depth research in a certain field that you are good at and interested in, and you can make your own achievements in this field and become one of your own talents.This way, girls will have the desire to explore you when they get along with you.
2. Upgrade the relationship step by step
When the girl you like is acquainted with you, if she interacts with you frequently , then you should take the initiative to upgrade the relationship.
Test the girl’s mind bit by bit, and let her continue to accept your presence in a subtle way.
So what should you do to gradually feel that your feelings for each other are getting closer?
The first thing you have to do is to test the girl’s current acceptance of you.
·Beginner-level ordinary friends: I don’t exclude chatting with you, but only on superficial topics. If the sense of daily activities is low, the other person will not take the initiative to pay attention to your behavior, nor will he take the initiative to show his kindness to you. His attitude towards you is no different from that of other members of the opposite sex.
·Mid-level close friends: Will take the initiative to talk to you about their concerns, and at the same time do not exclude being alone with you. They have a high sense of daily interaction, but girls will also avoid suspicion involuntarily. He won't take the initiative to show his kindness to you, but his attitude towards you is obviously more enthusiastic than other people of the opposite sex.
·High-end prospective boyfriend: She will often find topics to chat with you, and she is also interested in your topics. At the same time, she will not refuse physical contact with you, including holding hands when crossing the street, gently holding your shoulders when going down the stairs, helping her tie her shoelaces, etc.
So if this girl is not interested in you in the first place, she must improve the relationship step by step, and avoid being eager for quick success, otherwise it will easily be in vain.
3. Commitment replaces reckless confession
Confession is not an announcement that you want to possess the other person, but a statement How you feel when you're with her and promise you'll be nicer to her.
Then at this time, the success rate of "replenishing the promise" is often higher than that of confession. Because commitment is often a one-way behavior and does not put pressure on girls, it is difficult for girls to refuse.
Commitment is actually not difficult. Many times, what girls are unwilling to accept is a possessive question like "Will you be my girlfriend?"
Rather, I want to hear your eloquent self-expression, so that girls can maintain their own reserve, and this committed confession ceremony will not make each other appear embarrassed, and girls will also be more willing Choose to accept it.
In the process of pursuing a girl, the girl’s response is very important, which determines how you want to pursue it. However, many brothers often make a mistake during chatting. They only talk to themselves and think about how to say something. When you pick up a girl, you actually make a big mistake by ignoring the girl's response.
