What was it like living outside with your partner for the first time? What unexpected things happened? Take a look at the unexpected things the woman said below.
Ms. Wan: I am 25 years old, a public school teacher, and I rent in an urban village. My boyfriend is a doctor in a public hospital. He is 35 years old and has a doctorate. He has a house and a car. The most important thing is that he looks gentle and cultured. I admire him very much. We were introduced by friends last year and have been dating for a year.
After the Chinese New Year this year, my boyfriend said that since we have established a relationship, it is better to move to his house. He said that the environment where I live is too bad, there are many people, and it is not safe. I was quite touched when he said this and felt that he cared about me, so I moved there.
But I didn’t expect that he had severe mysophobia, which made me almost depressed. For example, I prefer kissing, but he refuses. He thinks that two people kissing means eating each other's saliva, which is too unhygienic, so he doesn't like kissing. Also, there are several sensitive parts of my body that he is unwilling to touch with his mouth, saying they are too dirty. I am simply drunk, so I feel extremely happy every time he "applauds".
Also, he asked me to take off my coat and pants first when I enter the house after get off work every day, then go to the bathroom to take a shower and change into home clothes, and then I can make the sofa and enter the bedroom. He said that after a busy day outside, his clothes were full of bacteria and he had to change them when he got home.
It’s okay once in a while, but I can’t stand it every day. After all, when I lived by myself, the first thing I did after coming home from get off work was to lie on the sofa and play with my phone for a while. But now, my living habits have completely changed, and I feel so uncomfortable.
There is also the issue of brushing my teeth. I used to brush my teeth before going to bed, but he asked me to brush my teeth three minutes after finishing dinner. If I forget one day, he will keep talking like a reminder, which makes me very tired and sometimes a little impatient.
Also, I used to like to invite my colleagues to come to my house to have dinner, play cards and so on. But my current boyfriend doesn’t agree with me bringing my colleagues to his house, saying that they will bring bacteria into the house and make it a mess. I was speechless after hearing this.
There are many details of life that are different between us. We didn't live together before, but I thought he was fine everywhere. But after we moved in together, I discovered that I felt uncomfortable everywhere. I was restricted by him in everything, and I felt that my life was not free at all. The joy of living together at the beginning has now turned into inner troubles. I originally thought about marrying him in the future, but how much grievance would I have to suffer to live with a person with such a mysophobia for the rest of my life? I am a little confused now.
I can understand how you feel now. The joy of living together at the beginning turns out to be the trouble of living together, which makes everyone feel unhappy.
As a special profession, doctors have a higher awareness of hygiene and hygiene than ordinary people.requirements, this is also a common phenomenon. So your boyfriend's mysophobic behavior may not be a big deal in the eyes of his colleagues, it is just a normal hygiene requirement, but in the eyes of ordinary people, his behavior will cause contradictions, bring conflicts, and eventually become a problem.
Therefore, the problem is not your boyfriend’s mysophobia behavior, but your understanding of the behavior. Because you don’t approve of your boyfriend’s behavior, you feel uncomfortable and restricted. , and even doubts about the future of both of you, so you are confused.
Marriage is a lifelong matter. Fortunately, through living together, you discovered the huge differences in each other's living habits in time, and you still have time to resolve them. I suggest that you and your boyfriend discuss this issue openly and honestly, and try your best to compromise to a level that is acceptable to both of you. Only in this way can you ensure a happy married life in the future.
It is not easy to meet someone you like, don’t give up easily, try your best to overcome difficulties and be together, I wish you the best.
