Compared with older girls, it is actually easier for older men and young men to get married as brothers, because by the time men in their 30s have basically perfected their careers, they also have a maturity that men in their 20s cannot match. So how should older men find girlfriends?
1. Appropriately lower your standards for mate selection
What kind of girl do you want to be your girlfriend? You must have a standard in your mind. List all the standards, for example, list six standards, and then see which ones are the least compromising, and leave the most important ones. Two or three items are enough, and all others are removed.
Women are also human beings, and they are not custom-made products. They cannot meet so many of your standards. There are also many shortcomings. Besides, there are still people who want girls no matter how much you dislike them. Why can others want them but you can’t? If the standard is lowered, the range of choices will become wider. If the base is large, the success rate will be high.
2. Don’t think too much, be thick-skinned
Whether it is suitable or not, whether it will succeed or not is not something you think about. You can only know it step by step. Thinking too much is too subjective. . If you don't feel like this girl is annoying, then try to express your love with a thick skin. It's okay to establish the relationship first and develop the relationship slowly.
Don’t chase her. People may eliminate you in the process of chasing you, because after you confirm your relationship, she will find your shortcomings and you have the opportunity to change them. If you expose your shortcomings when you chase her, they won’t. Give you a chance to make changes and eliminate them directly. Remember, you need to be shy, and confess your love within a few days of knowing each other. You can't do it if you don't have thick skin.
3. Realistic blind date
No matter what, you can’t expect a girl to come to you on her own! Unless You are really excellent and very popular with girls.
For a 30-year-old man, a better way to get to know a girl is to go on a blind date.
The girls on blind dates are all introduced by acquaintances, and they are generally relatively reliable. It is a good way for single older men to get out of singles.
4. Online blind date
Online blind date does not require meeting in person, you can also "flirt" with each other on the Internet. Whether it is necessary to meet in person in the end can be determined after chatting online. Chatting on the Internet also avoids the awkwardness of meeting strangers and makes you more relaxed when communicating. Although we are 32 years old, there is no need to refuse online dating. It is just a way of socializing. If you are destined, a long-distance marriage can be tied together.
5. Strike up a conversation
? Again, be thick-skinned. Don't take a taxi to and from get off work. You can take the bus or the subway. The purpose of striking up a conversation is to leave your contact information. Only with contact information can you tell a story. Don't just have fun chatting.Forgot about the business. As long as you know enough girls, there may be girls chasing you.
6. Actively participate in social activities
If you are in your 30s, I believe you will know a lot of people, so there are usually gatherings or social occasions. Be sure not to refuse. In this way, you can not only expand your interpersonal relationships, but also get to know more female friends. Even if you don't like any of them, if they think you are a good person, they will introduce you to their best friends.
