I like a girl, but she is too aloof and can't flirt with her at all. I can't chat with her, or go on a date with her. What should I do?

Indeed, if a girl is too cold and always treats us lukewarm, it is difficult to judge whether she has feelings for us and wants to give up. But I couldn't bear to let him go, and I was afraid that if I continued to pursue him, I would be being sentimental.

Actually, it is not that difficult to seduce a cold girl. You only need to learn these two skills, and she can be melted by you even if she is as cold as an iceberg.

1. If she is cold, you will be cold too

When it comes to choosing a partner, aloof girls, without exception, prefer men who are more challenging. Men who are too ordinary or easy to get are unattractive to her. Therefore, the more enthusiastic and attentive a man is to her, the less interested she will feel.

Therefore, whether we are really cold-hearted or fake, we have to change our image in her eyes in order to gain the attention of girls.

The simplest change is to start with speaking!

Control the chat status and maintain equality

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First of all, being aloof doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t reply to your messages or are very slow to reply to you. Many aloof girls will talk a lot when chatting with you, but their tone always sounds like they are blaming someone or something. It's disdain. For this type of aloof girl, we can also talk to her in a cool or pretentious tone.

Secondly, if she is the type who responds to your messages very slowly and briefly, then you should not reply too quickly or wait a long time before sending a message. And reduce the frequency of looking for her. You don’t have to look for her every day. It doesn’t matter if you look for her once every three days. And you have to be prepared every time (prepare the topic).

The language should be more concise

That is to say, do not include too many modal particles, particles, and modifiers.

If a girl keeps a cold attitude towards you, her brain will also keep running inefficiently towards you. A sentence contains too many modal particles and meaningless modifying words. Although it seems to be a lot more enthusiastic, she needs to spend more energy processing the information, which will make her feel irritated.

On the contrary, remove these words and only retain the main message. Although the tone is cold, the girl can absorb your message with minimal energy, which will make her feel more comfortable and can effectively increase her willingness to reply to you.

　(In fact, this is also the reason why the messages given to you by aloof girls are always brief.)

< p>　Learn to fight back

She has never been a docile little sheep-type boyOnly a boy who dares to express his attitude to her will make aloof girls look at her in a new light.

As long as you are not maliciously suppressing her, attacking her personally, or deliberately trying to make a point of disputing, then choking her with so many words will actually make her more interested in studying you.

If she tells you that you are angry or something, please ignore it and follow her words and tease her again. Because if a girl is really angry with you, she won't tell you explicitly. She will only give you various hints, or the goddess Sambo will slap you in the face and then run away.

　2. Conduct an obedience test

Perhaps this cold girl has a strong frame, but this does not mean that she will always be in front of you. Holding a high shelf.

As the saying goes, a drop of water can penetrate a stone. As long as you are willing to work hard and start with the subtleties, aloof girls can also be guided.

Start with small things

We can start with some small things that girls are not too resistant to, are reasonable, and do not suppress her, and slowly build a new habit for girls. , let her get used to being in the position of being guided by you.

For example, girls would not reply to your message after chatting with you at night, and they would never say good night to you. So now you can choose to actively end the chat early:

"I'm going to bed early today, but I have to make a small request."

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"I want you to say good night to me."

Asking her to say good night to you is a very simple request, right? Even aloof girls are unlikely to resist. If she doesn't take the initiative to say good night to you the next day, mention it again, and the same goes for the third day. As long as she does it for three consecutive days, she will form a habit, and on the fourth day, she will basically take the initiative to say good night to you;

Another example is if you are eating with a girl, you can deliberately Place the tissue away from you and closer to the girl, and then ask her to give you a tissue. Remember, when making a request, you should deliberately emphasize the word "one piece" and don't let her give you the entire box of tissues at once. Because we have to repeat it two or three times before the girl will have the conditioned reflex of "obeying your orders". When you ask her to make deeper requests, the girl will agree without hesitation.

Know rewards and punishments

After girls get used to doing small things for you, don’t rush to increase the depth of the obedience test.

For example, after she obeys your request and says good night, she immediately says, "I want another one." Such an approach is very wrong and will make girls have strong negative emotions.

Yes, negative emotions!

You just want her to do this or that for you, and if the girl comes out once or twiceShe will cooperate with you politely. But after many times, how could she not see that you are deliberately instigating her? As a cold-tempered girl, she will feel that her dignity has been challenged and her framework has been suppressed, so she will be seriously dissatisfied with you.

Therefore, with a cold-tempered girl, the obedience test must be well matched with rewards and punishments, so that she can get a positive response from you after she finds that she cooperates with you. If she refuses your request, she will lose everything. To enhance this kind of interactivity, instead of making the girl feel that she has just done the thing and done it without any feedback, she will be more willing to give back to your request.

How to implement this reward and punishment measure?

One is immediate feedback, that is, girls undergo obedience tests After that, respond to her immediately, which is suitable for online chat.

When a girl says good night to you, you give her a very happy expression in return. This is a reward for her. If she refuses to say good night to you, you can say I won't play with you anymore and don't take the initiative to chat with her the next day. This is her punishment.

One is symmetrical feedback, that is, after the girl accepts, we give her an equal amount of response, which is suitable for offline dating.

When a girl brings you a paper towel, and she asks you to help her pour a glass of water, respond positively and pour her a glass of water immediately. This is her reward. If she refuses, you can deliberately act absent-minded to her, and reject her in a teasing way when she asks you to help. For example, if she asks you to pour her a glass of water, but instead of pouring it, she leans back in her seat and puts her mouth toward the kettle, the girl will understand what you mean (don’t remain silent or say no directly, as this will make the girl think you are stingy) If you take revenge, then you two are basically out of business).