The divorce rate has been rising in recent years, which has made many friends afraid of getting married. And I want to say that although the divorce rate is getting higher year by year, there are still sweet and happy couples among them, so as long as we If you find the right method, you don’t have to be afraid of meeting someone who is not kind to you. Today, the editor has brought you the secret to a happy marriage. Come and take a look.
The main thing I want to share today is one point! That is, in daily life, we must learn to respect our wife, not only respecting her as a person, but also respecting the fruits of her labor.
Husband with low emotional intelligence:
When your wife complains to you "You don't listen to me!" How did you respond?
Ways to make your wife angry 1: Ignore or keep silent.
Ways to make your wife angry 2: Defend yourself - "I listened!"
Ways to make your wife angry 3: Criticize your wife - "I didn't listen to you" Because what you say is nonsense/I don’t listen to you because what you say is simply wrong."
Ways to make your wife angry 4: despise your wife - "Why should I waste my time listening to you? ”
There is no doubt that these four ways of responding are wrong. They destroy the wife’s point of view and do not pay attention to her feelings.
Generally speaking, women are more willing to respect their husbands and accept their influence in marriage. Men, on the other hand, are less likely to let their wives influence them. Some men always rudely refuse to consider any of their wives' opinions, and do not consider their wives' feelings or thoughts when making decisions. This kind of husband has "low emotional intelligence" in the marriage relationship, which will make his wife feel rejected and excluded, and the marriage relationship will be unstable.
Husbands with high emotional intelligence:
Husbands with high emotional intelligence will show respect and respect to their wives in marriage. They are willing to understand their wives, are willing to express love and praise to their wives at all times, are willing to devote energy to learning to communicate better with their wives, and are willing to learn from their wives. Such marriages are undoubtedly happier, family relationships are more harmonious, and children will benefit a lot from their parents getting along harmoniously.
Research shows that compared with a marriage in which a husband is willing to accept his wife's influence and respects his wife, a marriage in which a husband is unwilling to accept his wife's influence is four times more likely to be unhappy.
A husband who respects his wife usually behaves as follows:
1. When she wants to talk to you , you will stop what you are doing and listen to her carefully.
2. When you want to make a decision, you will ask for her opinion.
3. When she disagrees with you, you will not try every means to persuade her, but you can seek common ground while reserving differences.
4. Even if you disagree with her opinion, you will listen to her.Instead of interrupting her directly.
5. When you need to make a major decision related to two people (such as whether to buy a car), you will make the decision together with her instead of making the decision yourself.
6. You will praise her often.
Then the question is, do you show low or high emotional intelligence in your marriage?
If the answer is Yes, I believe your marriage is very happy, so Keep it up.
If the answer is No, take advantage of the opportunity now to correct your shortcomings. Of course, if you have time, you might as well read the book "Happy Marriage" by John Gottman. Trust me, you will get something.
