After you have just added a girl on WeChat, if you do not warm up your relationship with her within 24 hours and establish a sense of connection with her, it will be more difficult to upgrade your relationship with her later than when you just added her. many.
Therefore, if we want to catch up with this girl on WeChat, we must quickly warm up our relationship with the girl after we get to know her.
So how can WeChat chat quickly warm up your relationship? Just the following two skills are enough.
1. Use approach strategies
For example, praise and agree with girls.
Praise is not difficult to understand. Everyone should know what it means. Every girl doesn’t like the feeling of being praised by others.
But it should be noted that praise should not be excessive. It should bring out the inherent advantages of the girl and then increase it a little bit (excessive praise of girls when they first get to know each other can easily cause girls to misunderstanding that we are hypocritical).
Perhaps you can also try to get close to girls by imitating them, which is homomorphism.
The specific method is to imitate girls’ wording habits, punctuation habits, language style, etc. when chatting online.
For example, girls habitually leave a comma as the tail after typing a sentence, and we also do the same; girls like to add "ahaha" to a sentence, and we can also include these three words; Or a girl sighs, and we sigh too. Girls like to send cute expressions, and we also send funny expressions.
An approach like this is called homomorphism. It is a technique that quickly eliminates the sense of strangeness and shortens the distance in the early stage of acquaintance by giving the other party a high sense of familiarity.
2. Conduct display chat
Show yourself to girls, Including value display and life display (value includes: your inner value such as your conversation, charm, temperament, experience, knowledge, etc., and your external value such as your social ability, social value, material ability, appearance, etc.).
Life display is to paint a specific image of you to girls, and value display is to let girls know that you have what she needs. These are the key factors for men to attract women.
But please note that what we want to show is your living conditions and values, not your sense of existence.
What is presence display?
Many times boys do not pay attention to interacting with girls, do not give girls space to develop, and do not pay attention to girls' emotions. The whole process is self-centered, preaching to girls about their own things, or the girl shows her value and is refuted, denied, and knocked down by the boys. leading to the existence of girlsThe sense of being has been compressed, and the boy's sense of existence has been expanded. Therefore, presence display, to use a popular term, means showing off and bragging.
You can imagine that when a girl comes to chat with you, she can hardly see where she is and keeps listening to the boy bragging. So will the girl find this chat interesting? It must not be interesting. , when the chat becomes a display of your presence, that’s when the girl flees the scene.
Tips: The reason why many brothers cannot attract girls in the early stage is that they always unknowingly turn chatting into a show of presence, causing girls to pull away.
So how to display correctly so that you can quickly warm up with girls?
1. Hide your value and life status In the fun facts. To heat things up in the early stages, the most important thing is not what you say, but how fun it is. Because the girl is not familiar with you, she won't care about your things. The only thing that can impress her is the word "fun". So as long as you tell the story in a fun way, whether it's climbing a tree to dig out a bird's nest or going down a hole to fetch a loach, it will make the girl listen with interest, so that she can absorb the content you want to show her without knowing it.
2. Pay attention to the rhythm. Don’t keep talking alone. Stop after a sentence or two and wait for the girl to respond. If a boy continues to tell a girl about himself regardless of her reaction, the girl will feel that you are not chatting with her, but unilaterally instilling your personal values ??in her.
In short, the correct presentation is to pay attention to the display implantation not to be too blunt but to be subtle; the second is to pay attention to the interaction with girls.
3. Emotional resonance helps you get into her heart
Use some things to elicit our own stories, and then use our own stories to arouse girls’ emotions and seek resonance.
Tips: This technique is just the opposite of the above. When showing ourselves, we need to pay attention to keeping interacting with girls, but at this time, we must spend at least two-thirds of the time To tell our own stories. Because most of the stories that can trigger emotions are relatively private and even a bit heavy, it is a giving type. We cannot ask girls to give to us without giving first.
Then how should you start such a deep topic with a girl you just met?
It’s very simple. You can use the keywords in your conversation or the content of the girl’s circle of friends to do some Lenovo. As long as they can be connected, you can boldly introduce the topic and don't be afraid of overdoing it.
For example, if you see a lot of succulent plants posted on a girl’s circle of friends, then youYou can start the topic like this: "So you also like to raise succulents. When I was still together with my ex, I raised a lot of succulents. Later, after we broke up, she left half of it to me. Every time I see these succulents, I will think of her. , I felt very sad, so I gave them all away.” This can start a topic about relationships, exes, and painful memories of the past.
When we tell these stories, we will definitely make girls think "I have similar experiences/feelings" or "I know "People feel the same way", and then she will take the initiative to communicate with us about her feelings. This is the resonance we want.
