When many boys are chasing girls, in order to make the girl like them, they always try to be nice to her, but find that no matter how nice they are to her, her response is always cold, and then they take the initiative to confess, but the girl directly receives the response. Good guy card sent.

In fact, this situation occurs because you pursue her in the wrong way. Therefore, if you want to make a girl like you, then you must understand the following three points.

1. Please cannot be exchanged for feelings

Please cannot be exchanged for feelings. In our traditional education , there is a very wrong concept of love. If you like a girl, you should be nice to her, impress her and then she will choose you. But in fact, in most cases, you are moved again and again, and the only person who can be moved is yourself. Even if a girl is moved by you, this is just the reaction of her logical brain. She has no "feelings" for you and her "emotional brain" does not fluctuate, so she will still choose to reject you.

Not only does flattering fail to increase a girl’s affection for you, but it also makes you appear to be of low value. Most of the girls around me are uncomfortable with men who like to kneel and lick, especially those who only say good morning and good night and drink more hot water every day. Girls want to tell you, never become a humble licking dog in love. Licking the dog, licking the dog, licking until there is nothing left.

2. Show value instead of asking for it

There are too many men who like to ask for women’s value. Every chat starts with "What are you doing?" "Have you eaten?" "Have you slept?" Such topics are typical of asking for value. You are attracted by the external value shown by the girl, so you try to find something to say to chat with the girl. The problem is, you haven’t shown any value, why should a woman like you?

The core of chatting is to show value, because value creates attraction. It's like a girl who looks average and you don't like her at all. She suddenly sends you a photo of her body with very beautiful curves, and you start to become interested in her. Likewise, as a man you need to demonstrate value that will attract girls. Only when you are attracted to each other can you finally achieve positive results.

3. Upgrade the relationship instead of confessing

Many boys think that after confessing, they can make girls like them. . But confession is actually more like a contract of prostitution. Once a girl signs it with you, it means responsibility. If the girl cannot be 100% sure that you are a good match, the girl will definitely refuse to sign the agreement. And your confession will put the girl into the "evaluator" mode. Before the confession, she can see all your advantages. After the confession, she will start to infinitely magnify your shortcomings. You become the offensive player in the game,Girls turn into whistle referees, and girls can rule your goal as invalid at any time.

Confession is just a ritual after two people "get together" and cannot be used as a way for you to pursue a girl. As long as the girl doesn't resist your relationship upgrade and physical contact, just continue to upgrade the relationship. When you get to the point where you are boyfriend and girlfriend, do you still need to confess your love? Do you want a real girlfriend, or do you want a verbal commitment?

The above three points are the key to making girls not like you. You must understand them before chasing girls.