Learning to show your own value is a very important step when chasing girls, but most boys don’t have a correct way to show it. After getting to know a girl, they will directly show her so-called high value to her in a pretentious manner. Value, either makes girls feel that they are pretending, or they feel that they are fake. Today, the editor will talk to you about how to correctly show your value to girls and build a closer relationship.
1. Keep it real
There are too many ways to show off in this world. People show off like rich people, and poor people show off like poor people.
In short, most people can’t escape it. They always think that bragging about themselves is a display of high value.
On the contrary, the most important thing about high-value presentation is not to be pretentious and to be authentic. Perhaps, some friends may have doubts about what high-value display can be without pretentiousness.
It should be clear here that high-value display does not mean displaying value beyond one's own capabilities. High-value display is to show the higher value you already possess on the basis of maintaining authenticity.
For example, some people are good-looking, some have wonderful calligraphy, some are good at cooking, some are great at work, etc. Everyone has one or more things that are envied by others. To ourselves, this is our high value.
Therefore, we don’t have to brag unrealistically to show how awesome we are. This will not make us be taken seriously, but only the other party's disgust and contempt. Besides, in an environment where everyone is bragging, keeping it real is not a high value.
2. Direct display
Direct display. Some friends may have misunderstandings about this word and think it should Show it like this:
My name is XXX, age is XX, income is XX, apartment is X, car is X, let’s go out.
Sorry, it’s really hard to attract people this way. People who are better than us think we are fools, people who are worse than us think we are showing off, unless they have other intentions for us.
So what is direct display?
Direct display is the value displayed by us alone.
For example, when we discuss travel, we are like a travel encyclopedia, knowing the history, attractions, culture, and food of each region.
Oh, by the way, I can also add that the black pearls there are very good. I bought a few strings for my parents when I came back last time.
For example, when the two parties are discussing food, we know the characteristics of each cuisine and can recommend to the other party which restaurant and which dish is good. If possible, I would like to add this by the way: I cook this dish quite well, and I will cook it for you if I have the chance. Such a natural and unpretentious display of self-worth is the most deadly form of pretense.
QuestionYes, this pretense is not greasy. They call this a treasure boy with knowledge, experience and culture.
3. Indirect display
Indirect display is to take advantage of the opportunity through the language and behavior of a third party Demonstrate self-worth. This kind of display value is the best. Its advantage is that it is not deliberate and makes the other party more convinced.
After all, sometimes, no matter how truthful our direct presentation is, the other party will still be suspicious. The beauty of indirect display is that there is information confirmation from a third party. When our value is confirmed by others, it will make people unconvincing.
Imagine that when everyone is discussing accessories, someone suddenly says to another person next to him, "Hey, I just put my black pearl bracelet in your car and forgot to take it." In short, don't be deliberate, be natural and be real. Self-worth is never about how to promote yourself in words, but how to implement it in your own actions.
