Question:

Hello teacher, I have a crush on a girl for two months, but I feel like she has never looked at me. She treats me like a very ordinary person. Not even friends, which left me a little confused as to what to do.

She and I work in the same company, she is in the human resources department, and I was recruited through her when I first came to this company. Now I sit behind her and see her every day, and I bring her a cup of coffee every Wednesday and Friday. I occasionally chat on WeChat, but always get ignored. She probably found out that I liked her and was a little resistant to it.

In this case, how should I chase her to change this embarrassing situation?

< p>　Answer:

As far as chatting is concerned, a girl ignores you, but you still talk to her every day as always, giving the impression that you are relying on her to chat, so let her I'm starting to get tired of you.

Therefore, from now on, stop chatting with each other so frequently, and don’t let the other person think that you are a person who does nothing but chat. Control your own sense of need and keep the frequency of chatting at once every two or three days.

In this process, do not try to gain the other party’s recognition, apologize with low-value explanations, or overly please. Because these behaviors reduce your value and desirability.

Instead, try to improve your attractiveness and take advantage of your own advantages. For example, if you sit behind her and work hard, work hard. There is a saying that serious men are the most attractive.

In short, you cannot let her think that you are a man who does nothing and does nothing at work.

In addition, you will give her coffee every Wednesday and Friday, so on Wednesday you can not give her coffee, but do Do other things to enrich your life. Suddenly cut off the contribution and see if she responds. If she responds, it will be beneficial to you. If there is no response, it means that the coffee is meaningless to her. If you keep giving it, you will only move yourself.

If you don’t deliver coffee on Wednesday and she starts looking for you.

For example:

She asked: "Didn't you come to work today?" In fact, what she meant might be why you didn't bring her coffee.

You can answer: Maybe it will be delivered later, and you are still working on eight-pack abs in the gym~

At this time, girls may find that you are also positive, love life, and This is also a way to attract a man who has requirements for him. Through this kind of performance, you will slowly bring different feelings to her, let her discover more of your advantages, and she will naturally become more interested in you.

Since you have had a crush on her for two months, she knows everything about you, and now you have to bring her different feelings to attract her, so you can also try to show a different version of you through the circle of friends to make her curious about you.

When your relationship reaches a certain level, don’t forget to take the initiative to invite her and take the initiative to promote the progress of the relationship. After all, having a crush will only leave opportunities for others, so after establishing attraction, you must take the initiative.

For example, ask her to have dinner, go to an amusement park, or watch a movie to cultivate the feeling of two people together, increase the time you spend alone, and further enhance your relationship.

For example:

When chatting, you can use a vague invitation to her and say: There is a new snack bar nearby that is very good. I will take you to try it when I have time.

After completing these steps, your relationship with her will become more than just friends, but these things also take time, and it will take about a month to change. Since your impression is a bit solid for her now, it will take time to gradually adjust.

You still need to take your time, change step by step, and use the correct method to attract her.