Men should marry when they are in college and women should marry when they are in college. Logically speaking, the older a girl is, the more anxious she should be about finding a partner, so the requirements for choosing a mate should not be that high. But in reality, why is it just the opposite? The older the girl is, the harder it is to woo her?
You know, in the relationship between the sexes, The prerequisite for establishing a clear relationship mainly relies on two points - one is novelty, and the other is the impulse of love.
Although the definition of freshness comes from the visual perception of both men and women, the judgment standards are completely different.
To a certain extent, men’s aesthetic conditions will not change much regarding the visual perception of strangers of the opposite sex. In other words, if a twenty-year-old young man likes beautiful girls, when he is thirty, these girls in his aesthetic preferences will still make his heart flutter.
But women are completely different. Their aesthetic preferences will continue to change as they age.
In other words, twenty-year-old girls will be attracted by boys who are humorous and handsome, but after they reach the age of thirty, they will feel that such boys are unreliable and prefer mature and steady ones. of.
To put it bluntly, if you try to impress a thirty-year-old girl using the tricks and techniques you use when you are twenty-year-old, you will most likely end up in failure. To be honest, a thirty-year-old girl cannot be deceived by just saying a few words of love.
In other words, the people who can really make a thirty-year-old girl feel fresh from the first sight are often the boys who speak calmly. Most of this type of boys have already started a family, started a business, and finally got married.
Therefore, many people mistake this novelty bias and mistakenly think that it is a kind of "pickiness" among older women. Although Picky older women do exist, but they are only a minority.
What really makes them "picky" is that they don't meet the boy who really makes their heart beat at the moment.
At the same time, older women tend to be more careful and cautious in their consideration of gender compatibility than younger women.
They can no longer afford the risk of meeting a guy who will leave immediately after flirting with him, and they are no longer willing to have a fruitless relationship.
Therefore, the "difficult to chase" they externalize is not conservative and reserved, but a rational and calm responsible attitude towards each other's relationship.
Similarly, for young women, the so-called feeling of love mostly comes from sweetness and impulsiveness. For older girls, their sense of love comes from loyalty and dependence.
"Hold hands after just meeting a few times, and fall in love after just a few words of conversation." For older female young people, this will not make them feel happy, but will make them feel that this boy Flirty, casual, dare notTo rely on.
So in comparison, why do you feel "difficult to chase"?
Because you use The methods and techniques that twenty-year-old girls like, of course, will be easy and readily available to pursue a twenty-year-old girl. But if you use the same method of chasing little girls to pursue older women, it will not bring much sense of love to them. Instead, it will bring a sense of fear of "meeting a scumbag".
So why when boys are rejected by older women, they always say "I just treat you like a younger brother"?
It's because you have no choice in the process of getting along. Given these girls' love needs for loyalty and dependence, although they may have some fun together, in her eyes "you are really not a suitable partner for love or even marriage."
What is left to them There is not much room for error anymore, and they have no way or the energy to let themselves try a risky relationship for young people.
You will find that although most older girls are difficult to chase, once you catch them, it is easy to get married. Of course, except for some older money-worshiping women.
